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Organized but not anal.
A story about duct tape & your ideas
(Originally written 2023-11-30)
Duct tape is all that holds up the plastic panel on the back of my dad’s truck.
I inherited it so I have the task of keeping it up.
Every so often, I’ve gotta check: how’s my duct tape doing? Is it falling off?
A few weeks ago, I cleaned and waxed the car, removed all the old tape, and put new tape.
If I’d waited any longer that back panel would probably have ripped off in the wind.
Hopefully, it’s good now until spring, but I’ll be checking.
And although I like to talk about being organized,
I didn’t become anal about being organized.
Despite my best efforts, life is life.
But I’m organized or organized enough
–because I have to do other things in my life besides organize and I don’t want to waste too much energy on being a perfectionist…
So sometimes I still feel like things are like that duct tape:
BARELY HANGING ON.
But the point is:
it is hanging on.
And some things quite well actually.
Life is always a work in progress and a balance.
I just wanted to say
if you feel like you aren’t organized and are hitting a wall
if you feel like the only way to be organized is to be anal or perfect about every single little thing…
My news flash is:
there is another way.
You don’t have to become anal to be organized, you can embrace the duct tape method.
Duct tape is not a one-and-done, forever solution.
100% it will fall off eventually, but for now, it works.
MORE IMPORTANTLY, being organized isn’t about one and done solutions.
Being organized is about habits and maintenance.
AKA periodic check-ups.
No, you don’t need to become anal.
You don’t need to be super organized every second of every day to be organizedenough.
Your personal way to organize can be held together with duct tape and a couple of prayers, just don’t ignore it forever.
Every so often, take a look at how it is holding up.
In writing it looks like:
– Do I know where am I at in this project?
– Do I know what my past or original idea was for the project?
– Is all of this recorded somewhere?
And:
Do I really, really know where it is?
Is there a designated spot for it? – Even if I don’t work on this now, will I be able to find my documents and notes to remember what I was doing later?
If you actually check and the answer to any of these is no– it’s time to replace your duct tape.
You need to spend a little energy picking apart the system holding your project together and tapping it back together more securely.
The sooner you do it, the better…
but as we all know life can get in the way.
But if you can clear a little time and mental space, you CAN get that taped back up.
And boom, you’ll be back on track. For a little while at least.
You just have to remember, every so often to keep checking your duct tape.
And then you’ll be secure.
Focused and Clear on what to do for your writing yet again.
Able to find things.
AND IF YOU KEEP UP THE HABIT of checking your system’s duct tape,
your organizational system will get better and better over time.
Believe it or not: You don’t need to go super crazy to be organized.
You don’t need to be super human or totally anal, if that’s just not who you are.
Stopping and starting on projects does not even need to be eliminated.
But this is key,
You do need to check every so often:
Are things (your ideas) sticking together?
Are they falling apart when you aren’t looking?
Just assume that everything is regularly going to fall into chaos and stop kidding yourself.
It’s a fact. Accept it. BUILD AROUND IT.
Meet yourself where you are, you ain’t never gonna be perfect, honey.
But there is so much cool technology now that’s even better than duct tape (What! I know!)
and many ways to keep things organized so you can find them.
You can even stop and start, handle life, and
still end up with finished, satisfying writing
because you have a system to find and remember things over time.
Just make sure you remember to check on things periodically.
If you’re naturally organized,
including organizing all your ideas and writing,
this message isn’t for you
–you lucky dog we all wish we lived in your shoes.
But for everyone else
I truly believe you can find a system that works for you!
Even if it includes duct tape fixes
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And by the way, if you want some help with that…
I can help you organize your writing and ideas with regular check ins.
Want to make sure you don’t forget to organize?
Don’t forget to check in with your organizational systems regularly!
Ensure you’ll always remember to organize your ideas with the
This was very unexpected as I had OTHER STRATEGIC BUSINESS PLANS for fall.
I was going to do a “business intensive” for business owners to write together, connect to the soul of your business, get a bunch done really fast for 6 weeks…
so I almost didn’t share about the optimism challenge because of my previous plan,
but to be honest, I know that if I didn’t tell you about the challenge,
I PROBABLY WOULDN’T DO IT MYSELF.
My previous idea was good… but then I had a new idea, a louder one.
I have to say something big here
Although I “own” my businesses and write books, I believe I’m not alone in it,
I really do believe our books and businesses have other plans than we do sometimes,
and as an artist, it’s just my job to listen to what they want and try not to get in the way.
(Holds hands up to the sky in surrender because I know no other way to do this…
and I don’t know if I want another way, just guide me, oh creative muses…)
I’ve helped many other people take this approach of listening to the SOUL of their book or businesses,
and they’ve said it’s brilliant
so I know I’m not the only weirdo that finds comfort and wisdom in this philosophy.
So all I know is
the Optimism Challenge is on.
It’s what my soul wants, &
-what the soul of both of my businesses wants and
-what the soul of all the future creative projects, that desperately want to stream out of me, want
(including music, books, videos, and so much more.)
SO I GOTTA LISTEN.
Optimism is everything.
How can I do anything if I don’t think some of it is actually going to be successful??
This focus on Optimism isn’t how I thought this month was going to unfold because I had plans.
but…whatever I’m going with it.
The best things in my life have always come from listening to what wants to come through me.
As a result of just a few days of focusing on optimism:
I’ve already had the best birthday in years, and I’m noticing more happiness in my days than has occurred in a while.
My stress is going down, I’m singing again and playing guitar, I’m going to the gym, I’m cooking more, I’m feeling more lit up to write…
So I’m jumping in and have no idea where it’ll lead, but I’m positive it will be something good.
And isn’t a story better when you don’t know how it will end?
I’m doubling down on this optimism thing.
Me + the Optimism Challenge are in it to win it.
So to assist me on this journey, I put a workbook together for my 30 Days of Optimism Challenge
>>And of course I wanted to share the workbook with you as well.
This is personal to me and I’ll explain why today.
Several months ago, I realized I had a problem.
We were walking in the park and my husband said,
“I feel really happy. Like everything in my life is going in a good direction.”
And I said, “Yeah, I’m not. I really don’t feel that way. It’s great you do, though.”
It was just a fact. And I hadn’t realized it until he showed up as the opposite.
My position was nothing new, I’d been feeling deflated for a few years by that point.
But his star was rising all of a sudden.
And I knew after that conversation, that I needed to get up to where he was somehow.
This conversation was the wake up call.
I thought, “Gurl, get it together. You better not drag his star down, time to get happier. Get to it, chop chop.”
This is easier said than done and it is not like I haven’t been trying and succeeding to some degree.
But he’s set a new, higher bar.
And I’m going to catch up because the last thing I am going to do is drag him down or mess up our vibe. Don’t get me wrong–my husband hasn’t said a word about it, this is all me.
Like hell I’m gonna fall behind.
So after that convo around the end of spring, I wanted to step up my joy level. Somehow.
This summer I realized the missing link, the thing that was making my husband so happy, that I didn’t have, was the feeling that
Things are good and getting better…
A feeling I haven’t had since 2021, when my dad died.
I lost my trust in good things happening, just too many bad things had gone on.
So like why even bother. I did my best not to feel totally blah and unmotivated every day but still…
Feeling optimistic? Haha why would I?
But I have been really working on it because
I’m not just going to stay stuck here for the rest of my life,
especially not while my husband is flying around the moon high on life.
I want what he’s having.
And I definitely don’t want to be the one dragging things down.
Nope. I’m going to get there, too.
And the fact that I can even say that with confidence and hope and trust, or faith that this is even a possibility for me
(or better yet a certainty)
is a huge deal for me.
Being optimistic isn’t something that I can take a pill for.
I work on it DAY BY DAY.
And I am starting to see some progress which is really fun.
Recently I had the idea to focus on it every day for 30 days and invite people on the ride
Why? because it would make me happy and more motivated to follow through with company,
Could you be more optimistic?
Do you want to be?
Starting Sunday August 4th,
I’ll be sending 7 free daily emails about optimism;
one email a day with tools and thoughts to help you feel more optimistic.
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I could cite all the studies showing that optimism has benefits health wise, relationship wise and work wise – you will have less stress, and more energy and motivation. Plus everyone likes to hang out with happy people.
But sometimes you just have to feel that click of yes–I want this.
Before that moment, if someone tried to tell me about optimism. I would have rolled my eyes…
If you’re NOT feeling it, you don’t have to participate.
And if you are Interested in being more optimistic?
I went to a waterpark with friends and it was really refreshing.
I’m emailing because I got a sudden idea and I just have to tell you about it ASAP.
But let me back up a bit.
As you may know, I have been working to feel less unmotivated and more fired up.
On June 5th, I read chapter 1 of Brendon Burchard’s Motivation Manifesto.
Burchard says motivation requires:
A. Ambition (a choice to do more) and B. Expectancy (belief that what you want is possible).
That second one, expectancy really jumped out at me,
because that is something I have been struggling with.
WHY?
Don’t get me started.
There are a million pieces of my life,
pieces of evidence, that I can point to that show that:
-things don’t work out,
-dreams don’t come true and
-a lot of bad things can and DO happen.
And while I’m a big believer in being prepared for the worst,
being REAL about problems rather than pretending they don’t exist…
I know it doesn’thelpme to be pessimistic.
And Burchard was a big shout in my ear to CHOOSE to change my focus.
To work through what I need to work through, and move towards optimism.
Not blanket positivity, but
optimism that things can
(and will)
get better, and
it’s possible to get what I want so it’s worth trying for change.
So it’s been two months, and I have been working on being optimistic.
What’s changed?
A few days ago, I started to feel a shift,
to feel the COURAGE to look towards the future +
see the future as a bright place where things can get better, and
release the fear that I’m caught in a cycle of repeating a lackluster past.
It takes choice and intention and work but…it’s getting easier.
This morning I was reading an email from my vitamin company, Caring Sunshine, and
it had a whole section on optimism:
“A number of studies have shown that optimists enjoy higher levels of wellbeing, better sleep, lower stress and even better cardiovascular health and immune function. In fact, a recent study has shown that being an optimist is linked to longer life.”
So in addition to being more motivated to deal with problems or go for my desires…
And make me feel happier…
Optimism will literally extend my life.
So what about you?
Could you be more optimistic?
Do youwantto feel more optimistic?
If you say yes to both of those questions,
I’m coming up with a cool free thing
starting Sunday August 4th…
More info is coming.
I’ll be sending you some emails about it so keep an eye out.
First I collected my best thoughts and inspirational pieces of writing to help me feel more fired up to do things.
Then I printed these motivational words and made a physical notebook with them.
I could leave it on my desk to open up each morning to be inspired and motivated (without being tempted to go on social media).
Feeding myself with inspiration daily was really making me feel fired up for several weeks.
And for a time, l even looked forward to the practice each day.
But over the last week I began to notice a sense of boredom creep in. Noo!!!
And I’m really not okay with it. Because feeling more motivated is super important to me right now.
I have a mountain of things that I’m trying to accomplish in the two businesses and my life.
This system has been working to get things done!
I don’t want to lose what is working but I can sense my willpower losing a battle to boredom.
So how to solve this?
First I figured, okay if I’m feeling bored, let’s mix things up.
I thought that what I really needed was a sense of novelty.
So I found ways to combine something new with what was already working.
Some of the things I did were:
-move everything around in my notebook so the pages were in a new order.
-find fun, artistic printables from other creators that I could add to my book, like coloring pages and templates from Canva.
(BTW apparently, you can type anything in Canva and find a worksheet that you can print out or customize.)
-set new little goals like writing gratitudes each day, and going to the gym once a week. I made a cute worksheet for each one using canva (see above).
All of that was kind of fun.
But I still felt a bit bored.
Next, I started to intentionally set up the next day up the night before:
-put sticky notes on certain pages on my notebook to direct my attention there the next morning.
-set up inspirational podcasts the night before on my computer, so all I had to do was just click play on that episode.
-dug up inspirational books I hadn’t looked at in a while and set them on my desk.
I was really committed to making this practice of motivating myself each day stick.
I am really committed to making this work because I have been getting fired up, getting things done and I don’t want to lose that.
However, even though I made all those changes, sometimes the whole thing still felt more like a chore
and less like a reward like it used to be.
This is the point where usually I’d just giving up.
And yet it’s been so effective, I cannot possibly let it go.
I’ve just got to figure out how to make it work.
One reason I’m so attached to my system is because now I’m regularly reviewing those priority thoughts that I don’t want to forget.
These thoughts came up in my journal, ended up in my digital archive, and then I printed them because
they’re just THAT important that I want to put them under my nose daily.
Ideas like:
-feeling safe is important to me making progress.
-I’m allowed to rest and I deserve it.
-I should track my time and delegate more in my business.
These are all ideas that I could have and then forget for another few years.
Correction: I have had them and then forgotten them for years already at this point. Probably more than once.
But now they are entering not only my thoughts, but my actions on a daily basis.
If I didn’t remind myself of them daily,
I am sure that I would be relearning the same lessons over and over again for years to come.
But instead they’re actually starting to become a part of my everyday life…
SO I AM NOT GIVING UP!!
This Monday was particularly productive and I was referencing a list of priorities in my notebook all day. I had to teach a class in the evening so it was a long day.
And then Tuesday morning I saw the notebook sitting there and was like, “UGH I’m so bored.”
And I realized, you know what,
what if this feeling isn’t actually boredom?
What if this feeling is being tired, or rundown?
Or maybe it’s from being overstimulated, coming down from way too much excitement?
The last week in American history has been insane, actually the last few weeks.
It’s been like a pot of hot water about to boil.
I felt like I had to check on it every five minutes to make sure it’s okay.
I’ve been on social media more than usual
to keep myself abreast of what’s going on and see what other people think.
I don’t find social media to be good for my mental health in general. And the news has been very intense.
So this was a lot.
I think that that’s why
when I try to sit down, get focused and do things, I feel ‘bored.’
But maybe I’m just tired or burnout and
I’m craving all of those exciting emotions that I get from social media and news crises.
It’s like being addicted to a stimulant and expecting that rush every day, and then crashing when it’s gone.
If it’s not there, things feel boring,
but at the same time, I’m kind of burnout from it.
I don’t really want more of it, but a part of me wants what isn’t healthy.
Trying to sit, calm down and look at my little notebook full of familiar wisdom feels boring
even though it is 100% the healthiest thing I could do for myself.
But this made me realize that the solution to my problem isn’t ADDING novelty, it’s about SUBTRACTING something else.
Sometimes we need to add a new ingredient to a recipe to make it taste better, but other times you just need to remove an ingredient.
So I think I need to cool it on social media and scrolling.
I need to take a breath and just get reconnected with slower pace of life to calm my nervous system down.
Then perhaps it will be easier for me to find joy in the little things again.
So that’s what I’ll try next for a few days or even the whole week.
That’s my update. Perhaps it is relatable?
Maybe you can add novelty or subtract overstimulation to help you do something.
It’s finally sunny after a month of rain, which is a nice change.
Today I have some words to share about
-a show that brought me to tears,
-a class I teach today &
-an interview on ungoaling.
Oh my goodness, upon writing this I have just finished watching the show Geek Girl on Netflix.
I recommend it,
the story of a neurodivergent girl going through bullying who takes an unexpected job as a model in order to change feeling disliked.
It brought me to the edge of tears a few times and made me feel really emotional. I relate to the main character’s struggles in little ways, and it rang a chord for me.
The main character is not labeled with a diagnosis, but she feels like she is different, like she can’t keep up with her peers or doesn’t belong.
At times, the movie had me internally shouting and rooting for the main character:
“When bullies bring you down, you get back up!”
I was hoping for a fire to light inside of her to keep her going, even when people were just mean.
It relates to some thing I work on daily, getting fired up.
Last week I had the pleasure of recording this interview with Ginny Robertson, from On Purpose Woman magazine.
(This took a few re-schedulings; our original date was the 10th…but it was worth the wait!)
The topic was UNGOALING
As you may know, the past few years I have been reevaluating everything.
Before my father died, my work was my main focus.
Now my priorities have changed.
Although I still have passions, desires, and responsibilities I spend time on, I no longer see work as more important than my personal life or my health.
I’ve UNGOALED in a sense, or become more loosely attached to my goals.
John Locke (1632–1704) is among the most influential political philosophers of the modern period.
“In the Two Treatises of Government, he defended the claim that men are by nature free and equal against claims that God had made all people naturally subject to a monarch.
“He argued that people have rights, such as the right to life, liberty, and property, that have a foundation independent of the laws of any particular society.
“Locke used the claim that men are naturally free and equal as part of the justification for understanding legitimate political government as the result of asocial contract where people in the state of nature conditionally transfer some of their rights to the government in order to better ensure the stable, comfortable enjoyment of their lives, liberty, and property.
“Since governments exist by the consent of the people in order to protect the rights of the people and promote the public good, governments that fail to do so can be resisted and replaced with new governments.
“Locke is thus also important for his defense of the right of revolution. Locke also defends the principle of majority rule and the separation of legislative and executive powers.”