Phew! I am alive with creative ideas right now, as I work hard on transforming my 7 Layer Writing course into a paid program! It is getting me really excited.

Here’s a taste of the “let’s do this” energy I am channeling right now.

YOUR IDEAS MATTER
YOUR BOOK NEEDS TO BE HERE
YOUR BUSINESS NEEDS TO BE HERE

Don’t get hung up on yesterday, or that you are behind or that something is not good enough, just believe what I am saying here. (See above)

Focus on it, concentrate it and that is doing the most powerful thing when it comes to making it happen in real life.

Because if you doubt it, if you hang in negativity, it won’t ever get done. And if it’s not your priority, that is your choice. You can change your mind any time.

YOU MATTER. What you think and feel and dream and fear matters.

Now what? Easy. Just act like it. Don’t ignore what you know.

If you need help figuring out what that all this really means for you, there you go. You’re actually asking the right questions. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Put a pen in your hand and go write about whatever is unclear or confusing or hard.

Let me know how it goes.

xo Love & courageous mermaid vibes,

Sofia Wren

PS. It can be hard to literally sit down and write by yourself. Writing with a live group can really help. If you want to help people and you need to do writing for your business like your website, book, emails or blogs, then contact me or join the waitlist for the next Writing Group

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Hope you are doing well! Yesterday I walked miles in a corn maze. And walked several miles in a park the day before. The weather was so so nice.

I was reading Chop Wood Carry Water this weekend and came across this quote from Teachings of Don Juan by Carlos Castenada:

“I warn you. Look at every path closely and deliberately. Try it as many times as you think necessary. Then ask yourself, and yourself alone, one question. This question is one that only a very old man asks. My benefactors told me about it once when I was young, and my blood was too vigorous for me to understand it. Now I do understand it. I will tell you what it is: Does this path have a heart?

The trouble is that nobody asks the question; and when a man finally realizes that he has taken a path without a heart, the path is ready to kill him. At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path.

For me there is only the traveling on paths that have heart, on any path that may have heart. There I travel, and the only worthwhile challenge is to traverse its full length.

And there I travel looking, looking, breathlessly. “

Carlos Castenada

This really spoke to me.

When I started my business, I wanted to be able to write more and help people, while controlling my schedule.

But I wasn’t making any actual money for a while.

After working 50-hour weeks, for a year or so, with very little to show for it, I began trying something else.

It ended up changing everything.

I started writing letters to the soul of my business. I was inspired by Hiro Boga, who says that everything in the universe has a spirit or deva.

“What do I do so that my business makes money? How do I write more, be of service, and come into the full expression of my purpose?” I asked.

I imagined what my business would say.

My business told me to take walks.

I was like, “What??? How will this help?”

But it was like when I used to manage small businesses–when the boss tells you to do something, you just do it.

So I went off on my walks, and it’s just like the quote above–

• Trying every strategy to grow my business,
• Signing up for every course or template I could get my hands on,
• Spending hours posting on social media, doing this or that…
  

was “a path without a heart.”

As the quote says:

At that point very few men can stop to deliberate, and leave the path.

The chasing was putting me into a fight or flight state of stress where I kept thinking I just needed to do, do, do more.

I was spinning, spinning, and felt urged to do similar things but MORE.

BUT REALLY I need to pause and reassess my direction.

I needed to stop chasing outside advice so much and really tune into my soul and the soul of my business.

I needed to slow down so I could find a new path, full of heart…

These are all things that made no sense to me at all. I resisted them for a long, long time.

But eventually I learned more ways to do this and through practice and repetition, it became a way of life.

These days, I spend a lot more time off social media because I realized that paying attention to it for 50 hours a week was not growing my business or helping my mental health.

I found ways that work for me to use it in balance, along with a lot of other things that help my business.

And I actually make money! Yay.

And help people! Yay!

And work on my own creative writing projects! Double yay!

The way I do business is also designed to grow my soul,

to improve my creativity so I can write on my own projects,

to be less consuming so I can have a beautiful life,

to make space for what is important to me.

My business has made me a better person.

What is my business telling me lately?

I’m feeling called to help other people to make a shift in their business.

If you want to serve others as a coach, healer or creator, it is possible to serve more people in a win-win way and enjoy your life, too.

Here’s how:

First, if you haven’t signed up yet for the free writing class, it is going to become a paid course on October 27th. See here for the course!

Learn how to tap into your genius and write so your business website, content and book flow better. They’ll be more enjoyable and more effective in connecting to the people you are here to serve.

Second, the Winter Writing Group will be dedicated to helping you to make the shifts that will change or grow your business for the better!

Not only will it help you write the words you need for your site, content or book, but it will help you connect to your inner genius and the soul of your business, so you make conscious decisions that are a win win for you and your clients.

We will be getting a group of sparkly mermaids together to write together, take pause together, create and brainstorm together.

To really focus on what to do next to expand and serve others in a deeper way.

We will be taking the path of heart at every turn even if we don’t totally understand why…

(Because that’s how genius work!)

It starts in December and runs through March 2023.

I’m excited for it! And I know it’s going to grow me, too.

Looking forward to telling you more as that gets closer, and for now enjoy your day!

Join the waitlist to hear when the next Writing Group opens.

I wanted to share how my self-study writing course helped someone this past month.

It also shows why writing like you are talking to a friend works so well, in contrast to writing “like you are supposed to” and professionally.

I heard from an entrepreneur who helps people with meditation. Every one can use meditation so there are a lot of people they can help.

She took some business courses before where they advised her to pick one client avatar for her business. That advice did not feel right at all and she had a physical reaction that made her want to stop the course.

There are many people she likes to help so she felt conflicted. She’s working on a website and blog and wants to make sure it is authentic.

After going through my 7 layer writing course for people on a mission to serve others, she really liked the way I explained how she could write to multiple kinds of people, not just one.

Since then, she felt inspired to picture her clients and write letters to them, which produced writing she could possibly turn into blog posts.

She liked that it was okay to write to different people. It still felt like she was going deep enough to help them–versus writing to everyone in the whole world at once in a more shallow way.

She also felt more inspired to write in her own voice (so that it really and authentically sounds like her). She said I model that well in the course with the way I write in it.

It makes me so happy to empower people to feel more comfortable writing in your own voice.

Whether it is for your business, your website, or your book–

when you have the courage to be yourself first and put that beautiful, bright light into your writing,

it is so much more FUN for you to write and for everyone else to read.

People can get to know you and you will attract more readers and clients who really get you!

I know that typical business advice can be very sterile and not feel good–and writing so professionally like you are “supposed to” is super boring!

If you break the rules, it makes things more exciting.

Case in point:

About 15 people have signed up for the email version of the course (which is optional since you can access all the lessons for free here),

and so far my average open rate for these emails is 61%

That is high considering it includes over 10 emails.

I think people want to open my emails so consis is because I’m committed to honoring my flow so I’m having fun writing it. I also intentionally write to you in “friend-speak” not in a boring professional way.

Plus the content is pretty darn good!!

Any who, if you haven’t checked out this super-affordable course yet, give it a look.

I think you’ll like it and it might just give you the creative breakthrough you need to write for your site, business or book.

Note: This course is no longer available free! But you can get it here

Did you know that I have a free writing course?

It’s for anyone on a mission to help people in a bigger way through your website or business.

If you need to write for your book, website or business content this will help you to do that.

This is based on a series I emailed out in April and May for writers and entrepreneurs.

It’s going to become a paid course in about two weeks!

Right now you can go through the whole course for free with no signup.

How to get it by email for free:

You have 2 weeks to sign up for it while it is free!

If you want to get the lessons by email, you can sign up for that in the top right corner on the course page.

(See the darker area where it says ‘Want more?’)

Enjoy!

The thing you want is hard to ask for or go for. It makes you feel wobbly.

And yet it is the best. It is so worth it.

Go for it.

When I was younger I told myself I wasn’t creative.

I didn’t know what made me special.

In fact, I had a sense that if people knew everything going inside me–all the fears, all the feelings, and all the thoughts–that they would see that I am not good enough.

Creativity was hard because it seemed easy to get wrong, whereas school had clear answers I could memorize and get right.

For years I struggled with a desire to sing, to write, to dance.

In fact for a long time I convinced myself that none of those things were “me” or something I could do.

I feared doing anything that would make me look bad. Someone would stop being my friend, I would fail, I would be shunned, etc.

I didn’t really accept myself and by the time I was out of college I started to be more aware of this.

Still, despite therapy and working on myself, I kept seeing other people mirror this message to me that I was not enough, and I was disappointing them.

I felt awful and blamed myself.

But luckily, my path led me to begin writing every day.

Writing started showing me the feelings and thoughts I was avoiding.

And that included dreams I wasn’t listening to.

Gradually I changed my whole life. Since then I have professionally recorded my own original song. I followed my desire to move to Japan, met my fiancé and got engaged. I get paid to write and teach others how to do so for their book or business.

I went from being not creative, to having ten creative outlets.

Going from A to Z started as being vulnerable—one step at a time, one moment at a time, one interaction at a time.

It’s vulnerable to try. It’s vulnerable to even want to try. But it’s the best thing you’ll do in your life.

Don’t let your environment teach you what is possible. Keep trying something new.

I can tell you getting your dream is vulnerable, too. But worth it. So worth it.

Give yourself freedom to be WEIRD and MESSY–and just try.

Are you strong enough to be vulnerable?

Thank you so much for the avalanche of support last week from my new video on “One Year after Losing Someone important.”

(If you missed it, you can see or read about it on my blog.)​

Since then, it’s been an emotional adjustment to be SEEN in such a vulnerable and honest way–

frankly I get triggered by how successful it has been, given the feedback I have received from ya’ll!

This is new for me and I’m not used to this….but I’m open to getting used to it!

So thank you, I’m smiling about it all today.

Funny how I used to spend 50 hours a week trying to post things online to connect with people. I couldn’t figure out how to communicate online in a way that mattered.

I wanted to share the spirit of who I really am, but also make money so that I could be free to pursue my dreams.

I used to feel pressure to post blogs or posts every single day but then I felt like I reached no one.

It didn’t feel good and I got very tired.

Now it really doesn’t take me as much time as it used to CONNECT with people online

Connection means I can reach people to share important things

AND I’ve formed real-deal authentic friendship level connections. WHAT?! Yeah, like real soul-family type stuff. You might be one of those people Sofia

I’ve saved a lot of time and energy, so I can focus more on:

A. Helping people more deeply as paying clients, and

B. Doing what I want to do, like working on cool projects.

I want to help you CONNECT and stop wasting so much time online.

I went live on this topic:

“Making Connections through your Site and Social Media”

Got a business? A book? Got a message to share?

Spread your positive vibes online and connect with people about what you have to say in a way that makes you feel more connected.

Behind the scenes, I’ve been working with a lot of people on their website, their bio, their sales page, their book, and how they communicate online.

I’ll share what I do with every single one of my clients who want to write for their website or somewhere else online.

It’ll help you write words that feel like you and draw in the right people to connect with you as readers, clients or supporters.

With these tools, I literally don’t even have an official service page up on my website, and I keep getting coaching clients anyway 0.0

I’m so excited to share my philosophy and practices with you because I truly believe we can make the internet a beautiful and magical place with what I teach.

Thanks for being in my community!!

PS. I took the liberty of revamping my bio page this weekend! Feels so good to have it aligned with who I am today.

I’m feeling inspired to teach you how to write words you are proud of and connect with people better through your site or social media. Watch my free talk on the topic above.

For the first time I’m sharing my soul in a very deep and intimate way on video.

I hope it will bring you inspiration.

If you’ve lost someone important than you might know how difficult it is to find joy again.

I hope this brings you insight into how you might find your way out of this process, or find more meaning in the life that you have, even if it is difficult.

In this video I share the lessons of this very important time in my personal life, reaching the first death anniversary of my father.

Watch below:

• You can also watch on YouTube by clicking here:

One Year After Losing Someone Important

To Those People who have been in my community:

Thank you for being on this journey with me as I have been recovering from the death of my father, who my sole parent and key family member.

It really has been one of the most challenging and heart-breaking years in my adult life.

It was especially intense as many of my old traumas were dragged up as I share in the video…

But I think I’ve made the most of it, and I don’t ever want to forget what I have learned.

Thanks for taking the time to watch it.

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VIDEO TRANSCRIPT

For a long time I have been a writer, a creator, looking for meaning in this world.

You could read my words in a book or an article, on my blog or on the page. But now for the first time I’m beginning to add video, visual images to my thoughts and stories

My life in video – title screen

This first episode is about Surrendering a piece of my identity. What does the girl who makes meaning do when something awful without meaning happens?

It’s now been over a year since my dad was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer and shortly after passed away.

This is the story of what I learned over 35 years on the planet, losing people and one year since I lost him, someone really important to me.

But the story starts many years ago when my passed away which was when I was three.

But unfortunately that unhappy placement in my life timeline means that it began a part of my identity for a long time. It constantly came up in conversation when I was meeting people, and it changed my life completely in ways I can’t even count.

But I found ways to adapt. I mostly tried to push down those negative feelings that were left from all of these changes, and try to focus on not to making any mistakes, not being negative, or causing negative feelings in any other person. Ever. Which was very difficult and a form of perfectionism that ultimately was not possible. The attempt of this, which I did get rather good at, did turn into rather a high strung person.

By the time I was 34 and I lost my dad, I wan’t a complete newbie to this whole path… it was like the final blow to a casket, an end who I couldn’t be anymore.

And not that I won’t learn these lessons many times over, this video is really a monument to this moment in time so I never forget how important this really is.

The strategies I adopted as a kid didn’t last as an adult. Because it wasn’t functional, functionally possible to try to do things like I use to do them.

They couldn’t hold me anymore, or rather, I wasn’t going to let them hold me anymore because they created difficulties I simply could not tolerate being in my life anymore. I have had enough.

This lie that I had to prove myself and be perfect. And reach some sort of end when everything would be ok, when I could know it was safe from something outside of me, that I created for myself. I thought I had to do all these things, to control.

And maybe subconsciously, to try and control whether the people in my life live or die.

People live or die and it has nothing to do with me. I mourn the energy I spent trying to have this false sense of control but I forgive it and I forgive all the lessons I had to learn and the lack of understanding that came with it, because like everyone else, I am always doing my best. And that has to be enough. For me, it is.

Because I am deciding to let go of my identity as needing to perfect in order to be ok.

I released the lies and illusions that kept me put. That I need to be producing all the time, I need to be writing all the time, or providing something to another person or being any kind of way…to be ok. I just am.

And releasing all of those comes with it’s own sacrifices.

I was so addicted to my work for such a long time. That’s how I thought I had to be to survive. And now I still care but I’m not as consumed by my creative potential and my work and my journey on this planet as a creator.

I wanna be like a healthy artist and show up and be like, hey yes we exist. And don’t you darn forget it.

The patience with myself that fuels everything. It is still going be here even if this leads no where, even if this video goes no where, even if everything I do goes no where and is just a one off experiment? In being a human and trying to put it into some kind of art form, some kind of expression.

I am grieving. I am not totally ok. And I’m tired of waiting to be okay before I can do anything. Because the reason I am not ok is because I deeply love someone who had to leave me too soon and there is nothing wrong with that.

I have to reclaim all the energy from the part of me that has judged it through my life.

This tender, soft and painful area in my heart that has been bared open again by losing another person. It’s here. And I just want to grieve and make it okay to be a person grieving.

It is ok to do what is natural in a world where we need people to care about people more not less. to make it a strength to feel something. To make it okay to be part of the world as feeling people.

I’m still who I am. I’m still showing up.

Just like it’s going to be okay to show up on the days when I am having a good day, and everything feels open to me.
I’m saying it not just for me but for other people too

Not everything gets solved with a pill. In my life, many things get solved by art and creativity and writing.. Other forms of creativity can transform our sorrows and challenges and turn them into something else. Something of beauty, of value. Of excellent. Something with some substance. Something enduring that no body can take away from because it will still have been experienced.

But to have that release of the confines of a cage you spent your whole life in.

Despite being hassled by other people, the biggest jailer has only ever been myself. So I’m not going to put a lid on it or pretend to be someone I’m not so that I’m perfect.

I believe honesty and creativity will set me free and I’m sharing the magic to you by doing it for myself. From being just real and that is a beautiful thing.

This last year has been a big change and I’m my dad’s death was a lot for me to handle.

I left myself go to absolute pieces emotionally so I could pick myself up and come back together again with a few pieces left behind.

Not all of who I was before made the cut, and not all of my former life did either. I am now the one that decides what combination of pieces will make my life the most beautiful thing that it can be to my eyes.

I don’t decide if others live or die. I don’t control the big picture. I just what I can to reach in and find the seed of something that can possibly be good in crap.

I lost my main person. It was hard… And there is no meaning to be made out of it. I’m seeing whatever the reality is and I don’t have to put a smily face on it.

I can be angry. I can cry.

Whatever fairy tale I’ve been born into I am going to write the ending to it. And I’m not going to wait until happily ever after because forget that. I will grab the pen today and I will write my own ending and have it be that.

I choose happiness, safety, openness, and ease

The best part of being a writer and why I want every one to write is that you can change your story and you are the author.

So I have chosen to surrender to it: personality change, releasing my old priorities and choosing new ones, even if it means the death of who I used to be.

But self love is is conceptual, hard to grasp, and inactionable when its spoken about it in generalities. It can only be something you can step towards when you know yourself.

So when my own anxieties come up I can’t necessarily change it, but I can be aware of it. I can be present. And with my acceptance, I can find one more thing that I can do about it. And find some wonder as a strange little plucky traveler on a bendy road to who knows where.

So in the end if I have to choose one thing to make my life about. I choose me. It’s my life and I’m going to live it.

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