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You don’t need fixing

How are you feeling today?

I’ve been a bit tired!

The year of 2024 so far has felt like a whirlwind and I have been trying to catch my breath.

I have been on social media more the last month to promote things.

This has been really powerful but it does take a lot out of me.

It’s just the way it interacts with me.

So I’m pondering how to meet myself where I am while still showing up publicly…

I’ll keep you posted about what I figure out.

(But these FunLetters are staying, they are by far my FAVORITE way to share.)

Today I’m sharing an article I wrote a week ago in case you missed it.

As a reminder that you don’t need to be ‘fixed.’

You can still catch the replay to the Be Your Own Best Friend class–more info below.

Listen Up: Stop Trying to Fix Yourself

Grow your capacities and strengths instead.


Once upon a time, I was desperate to fix myself.

But it turns out that this was a waste of my time.

This might be controversial to say

Some people are so deluded and blind to their issues that we all WISH they would see. That drives you crazy, right? Me, too.

But on the other hand, many amazing women, and very cool men, get fixated on this cycle of fixing themselves. I used to be one of them.

But the endless cycle of trying to fix issues never gets to the real root.

At the root of so many of my persistent issues has been a gap.

A gap, stemming from a time or an area where I didn’t get the care, connection, or consideration that I needed.

Trying to “fix myself” often amounted to saying that I only really deserve love on the other side of that change: when I completed the change I would be okay, but not now, and not until it was fixed.

Fixing myself just doesn’t work

Why? Because I never reached the end no matter how hard I tried.

I couldn’t help but keep moving my goalposts farther away. There was always more fixing to do.

It seems simple to me now. It is difficult for me to make a change in the first place if I don’t offer myself love and acceptance as I already am…

Read the rest of the article on Medium

“Be Your Own Best Friend” Replay Available

It’s not too late to see the replay of the workshop!

Are you feeling:

-Overwhelmed and exhausted from constantly seeking personal growth without finding a sense of fulfillment? Stuck on a never-ending treadmill of personal development?



-Yearning for someone who can provide consistent, nonjudgmental support and understanding in your journey? Feeling isolated and lonely?



-Finding it hard to express your true thoughts and feelings for fear of being hurt, dismissed, or made wrong? Difficulty being fully honest and understood?



If so, these are all great reasons to come to my “Be Your Own Best Friend” Workshop to focus on

the most precious relationship you have:

The relationship you have with yourself!

It is the foundation of everything.


Ready to deepen your connection with yourself? Join me and my friend Kate in Paradise in our upcoming transformative workshop!


Discover the empowerment and relief that comes from radical self-acceptance and self-compassion.

We’ll dive into practical ways to do this and practice the tools together.

Inside the two class replays, you will:


– Embrace self-acceptance and feel understood without judgment.

– Connect with yourself on a deeper level and build resilience.


– Celebrate your achievements and feel a sense of wholeness.


Invest in yourself through this $38 workshop and feel the difference that comes from being your own best friend in a bigger way.

Afterward, you’ll have the tools to feel more supported anytime, even if no one can answer the phone to talk.

Don’t miss out – grab the replay today!


Click here to join the Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop