Do you need or want more money? Do you ever feel guilty or concerned that this is not a spiritual thing to think about?

If you are just starting a business, offering something new or thinking to raise your rates—it’s easy for doubts to come up. Are you worried this might cause harm to others or rub people the wrong way?

I know all about this, because I’ve lived it many times. Hear and see me share my thoughts above. I’ve been a dedicated spiritual student of many teachers for the last three years and an entrepreneur for the last two.

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I’m feeling a little on fire and so that means it’s time for a good ol’ rant.

What’s the deal with female sexuality?

As a kid I was the best kid ever–I got good grades, I joined clubs, I got a part time job. I didn’t have my first kiss until 16.

Later that year I got my first boyfriend, and I was so cautious. THANK GOD. If my dad were to marry his current girlfriend, then my first boyfriend would now be my cousin.

The other day me and my Ex-now-Cuz literally high fived. When we broke up we were still both still virgins. Horray! I have saved myself from cousin weirdness forever.

I wanted to mention this to share that female sexuality is not something I’ve embraced, so to speak, for very long in my life.

Yes, there are reasons to be cautious, but then there is reason to express freely as well.

In my teens sexuality held a terrifying allure, and still does so to a lesser degree today.

But as an adult, it’s also obvious that female sexuality is powerful and magnetic.Check out the site of any female CEO–they look pretty good, don’t they? It’s not just that they can afford endless beauty treatments, it’s that they own their power.

I did not grow up in my power at all.

I really had a lot of issues around being attractive for a very large portion of my life. My confidence was so shot, and I was always worrying about my skin or my small boobs or felt awkward.

Yes, I’m thin, but the grass is always greener on the other side, and we women can find a billion ways to decide we are not good enough.

In addition to that I worried so much about being too visibly attractive because I worried about jealousy, cattiness, ruining my reputation, or disappointing my teachers.

Yes, it’s important to make good decisions especially as a youth in a ridiculously small town. BUT many of the factors that compelled me to make that choice were really negative and harmful.

When I am talking about sexuality, what I’m really talking about is freedom to BE whole.

Maybe society has always feared female sexuality because there are no limits. No (man in power) wants to see an insatiable woman that no man can satisfy.

To me the image of the witch is a woman in her power, and in touch with the earth & spiritual realm for healing, understanding, and the living the life she wants. And that power has been condemned.There’s a Papal Bull  released just before the witchcraft hunting craze accusing a certain kind of person of vile acts, but really one accusation stands out to my eyes. These witch people “hinder men from begetting and women from conceiving.”

Did the whole witch craze really start because people had to blame their sexual inadequacies on others? (In addition to their dead animals or bad harvests and sick children and blah blah blahs)

Why does our self image have anything to do with another person? Or how other people will see us? Or what other people think?

The thing about seeing the world as a woman is that I don’t define sexuality as sex.I don’t define sexuality as being in a relationship or not being in a relationship. I don’t define sexuality as having anything touching your sexual parts.

Sexuality is like sensuality~ it’s a natural part of every person on the planet.

It’s in our DNA. It’s saying I belong here, and I’m allowed to be a part of things with everything that I am. To feel proud, powerful, and like love itself.

It’s a natural part of breathing, making love to the air around us.

It’s like eating delicious food, a glass of wine. (and most certainly like eating chocolate)

It’s smelling good things, and clean linens.

It’s brushing hair out of your face and admiring the beauty in your eyes.

It’s appreciating the laugh lines and the wisdom held within them.

It’s deciding that your shape is perfect the way it is because you can dance just fine.

It’s the euphoria after a workout.

It’s the feel of water on your skin in the pool or ocean.

It’s holding another’s warm hands.

We have a problem in our society of slicing everything up.

We separate the sex from the foreplay, the turned on from the excited.

Everyone is expected to put themselves in some kind of box, heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, polyamorous, pansexual, asexual, dominant, submissive, kinky, vanilla—-all the things that really only matter if you want to know if someone will let you into their bedroom.

I’ve decided not to care about the boxes because they are always too small an answer. I’ve decided not to care for this process of slicing up because I am ready to be whole.

What I want to do is to be fully expressed, and I invite you to join me. 

To stop waiting for an experience with someone else to draw out who you really are, to refuse to fully commit to any label as your identity, to let yourself feel whole, divine and magnetic no matter what your outsides.To be an expansive unlimited bundle of power and wonder and light.To decide you are gorgeous without waiting for anyone to tell you.

You are beautiful, and perfect and whole just the way you are. Congratulations. 

 

When I started my first blog at about age 12, I was so excited to have my friends read me. I’m 26 now and I’m a global blogger.

Some time in the last year I began to have a host of international visitors regularly come to my site. Think hundreds a week.

It didn’t involve me spending any money. It didn’t involve advertising or anything shady.

I have a few secrets up my sleeve which you can find out about on my talk next week on How to Be a Global Blogger.

But I wanted to talk a little bit about the benefits of intentionally blogging to reach a wider audience. Maybe it’s time for you to aim higher.

Here are some of these:

Reach people like you:

Even if you are a super weird, visionary, ahead of your time, unique person, there are people like you.

KNOW THIS. Human beings aren’t as dissimilar as we might imagine, so even if there are only 1 in 1 Thousand like you, then statistically there are still 7 million like you on the planet.

Ahhhh feel a big sigh of relief to feel connected to people who get you.

Take advantage of speaking English:

According to PBS, “More than 1 billion people are believed to speak some form of English. For every native speaker there are three nonnative speakers. Three-quarters of the world’s mail is in English and four-fifths of electronic information is stored in English.”

Do you speak English? Yes? Blog. Even if you don’t like writing, create audio or youtube videos to share.

Build a business:

Building international traffic to your site is a fabulous foundation for a business. You don’t even need to sell anything yet.

But once you have a base you can come up with a product whether you are selling ebooks, courses, subscriptions, or personal services. This makes your market virtually limitless.

And if you get super big, people might just fly around the world to meet you in person. It wasn’t for business, but someone did this for me once based on my writing.

Influence the world:

There’s something priceless about global blogging that I have to mention.

As a kid I always wanted to be a diplomat. I had already seen England, Italy and France by the time I was eight and I wanted a reason to travel the world, learn languages and understand other cultures.

I read all kinds of books about being a diplomat but I had to wait until 20 to apply.

As an adult, I recognized I was too free willed to hold a government position, so global blogging fulfills a special place for me.

As a global blogger you can become a cultural diplomat: someone who reaches other countries with your words and ideas. 

Imagine changing the world for free from your bedroom.

As long as you produce compelling content and can get people from other countries to find you, then you can build a following and inspire people around the world.

Who know how many lives you can change or touch as a global blogger?

Over the last year I’ve skyped with readers from India and New Zealand. I get all kinds of nice words from people I’ve only just met online, in addition to things people in my life say.

Never before have I felt like I mattered to more than my small inner circle. 

My blog is like a calling card that lets people know me in a deep way. So people who would have just been a facebook friend from California, or New York, a long distance away from me, can stay in touch with me and later tell me how I light up their life.

I hope you think about taking your message global, and letting more people into your heart. Together we will write a beautiful world into being. 

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Recently I was told how mysterious I can be so here’s my life in 7 facts.

1. I learned Italian and English at the same time. It was the beginning of my life between the worlds and love for language.
When I was three I started to lose Italian after my mother passed away so as a child I studied it outside of school until college so I could talk to my grandma.  When not in Italy, I enjoy translating the Sopranos and confusing my boyfriend because he can’t understand me. 

At 22, I finally felt like I could communicate easily with my relatives. I had to be very very patient trying to understand them and express myself during this long uncomfortable gap from 3 to 22. Hence why my purpose and passion in life spirals around the journey to communicate who I am and what I have to say, and to inspire deep meaning and transformation.

2. My degree from Bryn Mawr College was a B.A. in Political Science with a minor in Italian. My teenage dream was to become a diplomat, but then I got older and realized to that I’d have to let the government tell what to do, where to live and what language to learn. I’m aiming to be a cultural diplomat as a writer and creative now.

3. I don’t like people telling me what to do. I put up with it for a while and was very good at every job I took on, but in such a way that I became too good, and got buried under even more work as a reward. Needless to say, I got bitter pretty fast. 

I hid it, but eventually I really couldn’t stand another crap job in which I drained myself trying, my boss relied on me as the backbone of the business, and I wanted to bang my head against my desk with stress and disappointment that I could never afford my own apartment. Since I took on self employment at least I’m not bitter, scared often I will admit, but not bitter. And I feel fulfilled because I can use all of my bazillion talents from all my experience, combined with my creative and spiritual passions.

4. Everyone in my family is pretty much self employed. I took it for granted that we can all go to the doctors or post office in the middle of the day and choose to work at night. Or that going to Europe is just a matter of putting it on the calendar and buying tickets. Families like mine should come with a handbook called “So You Want to Work a 9-5 in the Government? HAH.”

5. Most days I don’t bother with makeup so I look boyish with short hair. Other days I wear one of my many red dresses, eyeliner, or one of my many cool necklaces. I enjoy freedom and choice to either remain invisibly androgynous or to grab attention with my confidence. I’m a gentle calm person on the quiet side most of the time, but then I get excited, playful and sassy on my high energy days. 

6. I have this problem where I make lots of awesome stuff and then hide them because they are not perfect. I’m about to reveal a barrage of creations like this sireny song on Soundcloud. Watch out.

7. I’ve been blogging for 13 years, but this is the first blog that has actually gained an audience. I can’t tell you what it means that people leave comments, or let me know they look forward to hearing more of what I have to say. Because of this and other developments which allow me to accept myself as I am, and thus create and share in more expansive ways, I am the happiest I have ever been in my life.

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This week I was interviewed as an expert on the topic of Sacred Writing: From Inner Critic to Spiritual Muse. Big thanks to Shamia Casiano for the invitation.

Her first question was “What is Sacred Writing?”

It’s an idea I have been playing with for some time, but only recently have I been able to put it into words. I’m not talking about hieroglyphics or runes or any of those scripts.

What I’m talking about is something I’ve been looking for a long time. Since middle school I have been fascinated with other spiritual traditions and cultures. I wanted to connect with ancient wisdom. It has always been a part of me, and not just because “Sofia” means “wisdom”

There is something missing in the modern world, something with deep meaning and effortless beauty.

We all are so self conscious and worried about our appearance, how people will see us, meanwhile our world seems to be going through cycles of ugliness as each wave of technology becomes outdated.

We have to wonder about the future. In my area I often see areas that used to be covered in forest suddenly house developments, even when the homes we have already are difficult to sell. 

It saddens me because my biggest solace in life has been nature, the forest and the ocean that I grew up with. Forests I could walk to from my house are now replaced with house fit tightly together.

The natural world is sacred, holy, and right. It is perfect just the way it is.

These questions have always struck me: 

How do I integrate these worlds and where do I fit? 

How do I bring the meaning of the sacred into the modern day? 

For me sacred writing is an answer to this question. It is the art of tapping into our spiritual nature in such a way that we surrender to the process.

We surrender to who we really are outside of our trappings and we see the our true landscape, the lows and peaks, the Achilles’ heel, and the Olympian strength.

We no longer care about what someone will think as we write, because we are so in the moment. We are whole.

Sacred writing is beautiful, full of grace and flow, and it tugs something wordless inside of our souls.

We become something larger in the writing, that pours out of us. We are the movement of our hand, but the words come from beyond our ordinary thoughts.

And these words can exist forever, even after we are gone.

Writing is now a daily practice for me, as a ritual, whether in the morning, after meditation. This is such a different feel to me than writing in a worklike style. 

Have you experienced Sacred Writing?

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I’m celebrating the confidence to release this beautiful short story I’ve loved for years but which I was too afraid to release before.

I hoped to find a magazine to publish it, but it’s a wee thing, only 2 pages.

Lately, I’ve been thinking the real problem is that I didn’t think people would accept this story about the lovely Taylor.

I mentioned this a little bit yesterday in my movie about 4 steps to confidently declare yourself a writer.

Truth is, it’s a romantic piece about a lady, and at the heart of fearing other people’s reaction–I think I didn’t accept the fact that I wrote this. I didn’t want to think about if that mean I was a little bisexual or what.

Do you ever write something from the heart and then fear what it will say about you?

Frankly, at this point, I have decided not to care how people will interpret my story. I’ve decided not to overanalyze it either–it’s art. Women have been the focal point of art since forever.

The whole point of writing stories, for me, is to explore other worlds.

Some people assume all writers just “write what they know” but sometimes they make things up.

Finally, as a wise man named Jerry Seinfeld often said, “Not that there’s anything wrong with that….”

Who cares?

Check out why I love this story, and why I thought it might be a little risque. If I had to put a rating on it (and wattpad wanted me to) I’d say it is PG 13.

I’d like to talk about the latest hurdle for me: Owning the ‘W’ Word.

While I was on vacation in a beautiful place (before my bday), I made a video for you!

Learn why I know fear
What true alchemy of life is
How to respond to bad dreams
And how to face your deepest fears and make them look silly!
So you can enjoy life!
Wahoo!

When I started writing this post, I will admit…I got a little down.

There is something about birthdays that haven’t quite hooked me. Maybe it’s the summer season–when other people were in school with their friends, I usually was off on Martha’s Vineyard. 

This small unique island is my birth place and the home of many in my wonderful quirky family.

I just returned from a lovely trip there, but I have to admit coming back is a bit of a wavering point before my birthday.

Leo’s are supposed to be loud, dramatic and want attention on them all the time. It may be more true now than it ever was as a shy youth.

It’s funny because I’ve never considered myself outgoing.

I’ve always liked blogging, and sharing my words but honestly? To me it’s part therapy, part seeking connection, and part carving a world for others to feel accepted and make smarter choices than I have.

At times I refer to myself as a “humble leo.”  I’m not afraid to admit my mistakes, or at least I do anyway, same with the low points.

I make things look easy that honestly have kept me up at night, heart pounding, or tightened my neck muscles into cords.

This is my 26th birthday, and I’ve decided I’m on track because there is nothing I regret not doing right now–I am living life right, stepping into the darkness with my intuition, knowledge and as much courage as I can muster at any time.

No one is exactly like me, and that’s a blessing as well as a challenge.

It takes a lot for me to do everything I do here, to tell my stories, in essence to bare my soul. I put effort into each and every tweet and post and facebook share.

I honestly believe it’s my way of making the world better–by being myself to encourage others to share their hearts, too.

I’ve hit a quarter century. In the last year I’ve changed so much, I can’t even describe. 

It scares me. Coming out of hiding for real, this is it. I’m never going back, and that scares me, too. This is the death that occurs this year.

Fear of success is no laughing matter. It’s real. You and me both have every right to feel this way.

But I say words today to lay the past of smallness to rest. To let the things that don’t serve me to continue to trickle away and die.

I move with new limbs, and shake free of old webs.

I meet myself today as I am and as I will be, no longer a child. Twenty six–I’m stepping into my late twenties.

I feel older. I feel responsible for my own life, and I can’t blame it on anyone else. Every time my ego steps in, I know it’s my own fault for the negative attitude.

I know that I must surrender the separation I create between myself and others, between myself and Spirit. Faith, even in my own unique shape and for my nontraditional ways, keeps me going.

Old habits die hard. But I know that when we work inside, everything changes.

And so Act I closes at the first quarter of the book, and I begin the plot’s real ascent.

I step out of the confusion I so have loved to wallow in, and I step into clarity– knowing myself, knowing my purpose, knowing my path and the ways in which I love to climb.

Hello 26.

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I’m writing this the night before my big day– 8.8

I think I’m taking this too seriously, and certainly need to celebrate, and so I will share pictures of my latest vacation, which was wonderful and very grown up.

My old soul grew to love the boredom and the pesky lack of cell service or internet access.

Lobster date!

I ate in Menemsha on Martha’s Vineyard, a few days before Obama visited a place eerily close to my family.(I think Obama may be stalking me so I had to leave early.)

I cried all over the beach. Just kidding, I visited my childhood beach and it rained slowly as I admired the rocks.

We saw many places which my guy says are “So beautiful it’s stupid.”

I coveted this silk and felt artpiece by Heather Hall at her gorgeous art opening.

It’s stupid beautiful and I was afraid I’d snag the delicate cloth. But it was cool to look at.

I helped my aunt transport her gorgeous arrangements, a blessing to the first of my generation to tie the knot.

Which leads me back to tears and celebration–sometimes people mark intense change and transformation with tears. I am such a one.

It’s a strange feeling of elation and giddiness and sadness and acceptance that time is going, new things are coming and the past is past.

As I get older so does everyone I love. But I hope that as I change so will I too be able to help others with the changes they desire.

I know I am on the right track. I know enough to know I have come far and there are paths I will not choose to wander into again.

Goodbye 25.

Btw on the way home I appreciated a miracle of synchronicity:

 I had done some meditating to connect with abundance on the car ride down, and look who joined us to dinner~~~ Ganesha, auspicious & abundant Hindu god, magician, master of manifestation and the clearing of obstacles. Felt perfect.

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