At 21, Sofia Wren realizes that she is a total doormat. Her boss steals money from her. She gets her heart broken too many times. But when she starts losing friends because she is so passive, it really gets real. What is she doing wrong?
Sofia is ready to do just about anything to finally master being a “strong, independent woman” in real life, when her best friend suggests she try being more dominant and meet men who will not only give her all the power, but also clean her kitchen, treat her like a goddess, and give her endless pleasure for free.
As she pursues power, Sofia struggles once more. How can she become a strong, empowered woman and get what the good girl inside of her wants—without going too far?
I consider all of these things to be creative projects.
💥 Creating is powerful.
So when you approach YOUR chosen creation, maybe it feels like you are in charge.
🌈 You are holding the paintbrush of your life and coloring everything in the way you like it, right?
Maybe…
🔮 A lot of people believe they are in charge of creating, and it can be really enjoyable.
But for me there is more to the story.
👉👉🏽👉🏼 LIFE IS A COLLABORATIVE PROCESS.
It’s about:
🌹 Giving and receiving.
🌹🌹 Surrendering and taking control.
🌹🌹🌹 Doing some hard things AND some easy things.
BALANCE.
I use what I am about to tell you to make progress with everything I create–my books, my business, my life, my relationships–but let me just pick one thing to illuminate my point.
For example, one business lesson I learned the hard way is that my business has its own plan for how it wants to exist and grow. And when I don’t understand what my business is saying, I can lose an opportunity. But when I do understand…💸💸💸🔮
My business is not just my creation, it has it’s own energy and it’s own design.
For best results I have to listen and work with that design.
It holds an energetic design of what it wants to become even when it is not physically formed yet.
I have to honor that I’m not working with a blank slate–I need to work with the blueprint that is already there.
You wouldn’t take a daisy and expect it to become as high as a tree, right?
But I assumed that when I create something, I can make it into just about anything.
Now I think that’s wrong.
💥 Creations often have an energy of their own, with their own design and intention–I have to collaborate with it if I want to be successful.
🔮 I’ve come to understand that this is a basic principle that can be applied to all creations.
I feel this potential bubbling when I work with clients on their book, business, nonprofit, or other creative passion.
It also applies to everything you do in your life:
👉👉🏽👉🏼 Some things want to happen NOW and other things want to pop later.
🌈 It’s extremely handy to be tuned into this as a multi-passionate creator, because then you always know what to do next.
💥 Just know that you can’t just FORCE things to be what you want–sometimes you have to listen and go with the flow.
And today I want to share how I apply this knowledge and what is going on with my creations now!
APPLYING THE THEORY
So are you thinking, “How do I apply this?” Let’s take my life as an example!
Step one: Find your Achilles heel.
💖 First, let’s review what the default pattern is. This is always helpful to see where you tend to ignore signs. 💥 Me? I’m a speed-demon in recovery.
When I was a kid I would walk so fast you would think I was running through the hallways just for the joy of getting to my class faster so I could read for a few minutes.
When it comes to creating, writing and living my life I still have that speed demon urge.
💖 Step Two: Assess where you are and what you want.
See what you want to create and what is in the way.
I’ve traveled the globe in the last few months and finally gotten my first permanent residence in 3.5 years.
I’ve heavily invested in my Blood Witch fiction series that I am writing.
As soon as Book 1 is out, I can earn money back from it. YAY! I want this ASAP.
I can also make money with my business and am planning to sell something new soon.
💖 Step Three: Note what’s in the way.
Long story short, Book 1 has been slowed down because I had to do other things for books 2 and 3.
My editor wants Book 2 by the end of the month but I have to figure out all the revisions for Book 1 to make sure Book 2 is correct…
I also want my business to grow by enrolling new clients and launching my 7 Week Psychic Mermaid Course.
Marketing is a lot of work and trying to grow my business will probably take over my life.
💖 Step Four: Notice the shift of external events and how they make you feel.
I’ve had bad internet for weeks and couldn’t do a ton with my business.
I used that time to get on a roll writing my books, though, so I have momentum now.
Business coaches of mine are teaching marketing at the end of the month. I want to hear their thoughts before putting out my course.
My writing mentor is out for a few weeks so I can stop working on outlining book 3. I can work on Book 1 and 2 without distraction.
Some client work is slowing down so I have less on my plate to edit for her.
My editor wants my second book at the end of the month.
I’m actually kind of okay with making less income right now in the short-term so I can focusing on the books as a long-term investment.
💖 Step Five: Communicate with your projects by journaling with them or doing energy work.
These days, it doesn’t take me long to get on the wavelength because it is a regular practice for me.
I don’t really need to “do” much, it’s an inner shift.
For now I’ll just say–I have communed with my book and business and I have a pretty good sense of what’s going on here.
🔮 The details of how to get intuitive messages about what to do next on your creations will be taught in my upcoming Psychic Mermaid 7 Week Course. If you want the nitty gritty, shoot me a reply to get on the waitlist.
💖 Step Six: Make your conclusion and set your intention, even if it is different than your original plan.
Things are shifting in the universe and I sense an opportunity to catch the winds coming my way.
This is a set up for some sweet, sweet gliding.
💥 The books want my focus!!!!
So the Psychic Mermaid 7 Week course launch is now postponed a little bit longer.
My original goal was that now that I’ve moved into a permanent home, I’d rush right into the promotion of my course for entrepreneurs, writers and creators on the energetic secrets to inspiration, clarity and momentum.
🌹 But lately I have been getting a different message.
All these things are coming off my plate for a reason.
🔮 Plus, something about being anchored makes it a little easier to hear my intuition, since there is not as much chaos.
I’ve gotten really used to chaos. It’s been a chaos for a long time.
💥 Continuing with my original plan would speed-demon fueled chaos.
But, lol, as they say, “Not today, satan!”
I know my patterns and I have my eye out for them.
😌 Because it turns out the spirit of my business and my new course really aren’t in that much of a hurry.
They want me to take the time to do it the right way and not just throw it out into the world.
🌹 Nestle it into the world.
🌹 Enjoy the dance of it all.
🌹 Do things in the order that feels more peaceful.
And I’m reluctantly deciding that they are right.
It’s a hell of a stretch for me to slow down sometimes, but The Psychic Mermaid Course will not be opening in May, and perhaps not even in June.
I’m eager to get it out there ASAP but we will see what ends up getting created, when.
Stay tuned for updates! (You can also reply to this email to get the news first.)
🌹 So in sum, my intention is that for the remainder of May, I am taking a step back from other things, and setting my focus on revising Book 1 and 2 of the Blood Witch Series.
It’s the opposite of my plans and honestly it feels hella indulgent.
🔮 But when I start listening to the things I am creating…that is when the magic really happens.
I hope this example is inspiration for you to listen to the things you are creating: your book, business, nonprofit, or other passionate creative babies!
Now it’s time for you to reflect:
What you are creating right now? Have you been taking any twists and turns?
🌹 Remember: LIFE IS A COLLABORATIVE PROCESS.
You have to work with the things you are creating! And listen to their guidance, not just do it your way.
If you like this post, you can learn more about how to access the power of your inner mermaid so you can transform all your creative outlets into a business or creative career that feels sparkly and right for you in my upcoming 7 week Psychic Mermaid online course.
Today, I want to make a note about how I see surrender when it comes to boundaries,
AND
share some awesome and inspiring quotes that people really like.
?I used to feel like I had to be strong all the time–I had relationships where I was the rock and everyone would lean on me.
That came from the way I grew up, where trying to be in control and be strong against a torrent of negativity was how I got through a lot of intense things.
And it feels good to help people.
But the problem was that it was really wearing me down. Turns out this approach does’t really work for me.NOTE: This includes not just people in my life, but also my business work, my writing, and interactions on social media.
And the only want to get out of it was to change, and I was afraid everything would come tumbling down.
But finally it all was just too much to hold up and I had to let it drop.
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So what happened when I collapsed and let things go?
Some relationships and projects were unfixable and I had to end my involvement in them.
Some of those relationships were fixable when I changed them to fit new boundaries.
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But my favorite thing that happened was:
in the empty space, I drew in some new relationships and projects that started giving me support and energy, rather than always requiring it to be the other way around.
Like my adorable fiance! And now we are in love.
I say this because when it comes to boundaries, you may think surrendering means letting people walk all over you.
I see it as the opposite.
For me, surrendering really means accepting that I need boundaries, accepting how I work is not going to change that much, and figuring out when I need to just listen to myself versus approaching life as a “grit and bear it” process.
Trying to change myself so that I fit XYZ situation–like when I was trying to be strong–is actually me trying to be in control.
It is me grasping. It is me contorting. It is me people pleasing. It is me trying to be perfect.
It is me hiding behind who I think I need to be, instead of surrendering to who I am.
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Letting myself
rest when I need to,
pursue writing and creative projects I like that the whole world might not like,
change my business model to fit the real me and the way I like to work instead of how other people do it.
HAS CHANGED MY LIFE.
FOR THE BETTER.
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And it started with embracing this concept of Surrender.A great book on this topic is, “The Surrender Experiment: My Journey into Life’s Perfection” by Michael A. Singer.Here are a few of his inspirational quotes for you to chew on and decide what surrender means for YOU. xo
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“I could see that the practice of surrender was actually done in two, very distinct steps: first, you let go of the personal reactions of like and dislike that form inside your mind and heart; and second, with the resultant sense of clarity, you simply look to see what is being asked of you by the situation unfolding in front of you.”
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“How could I possibly explain the great freedom that comes from realizing to the depth of your being that life knows what it’s doing?”
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“Time and again I was seeing that if I could handle the winds of the current storm, they would end up blowing in some great gift…
Challenging situations create the force needed to bring about change. The problem is that we generally use all the stirred up energy intended to bring about change, to resist change.
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“Clearly remember deciding that from now on if life was unfolding in a certain way, and the only reason I was resisting it was because of a personal preference, I would let go of my preference and let life be in charge.”
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“My formula for success was very simple: Do whatever is put in front of you with all your heart and soul without regard for personal results. Do the work as though it were given to you by the universe itself – because it was.”
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“Because I had inwardly surrendered each step of the way, no scars were left of my psyche. It had been like writing on water – the impressions only lasted while the events were actually taking place.”
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“Surrender – what an amazingly powerful world. It often engenders the thought of weakness and cowardice. In my case, it required all the strength I had to be brave enough to follow the invisible into the unknown.”
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Remember what works for someone else may not work for you! And that can be okay!
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P.P.S. In my coaching to help sensitive people to write and create for their books or businesses, I help them find unique ways to move forward in a way that fits them.
If that sounds interesting, contact me here. I’ll send you information about my offerings and we can discuss if they are right for you.
These days so many people are losing some big dollars due to
COVID,
the way COVID has changed the world,
or the way COVID scrambles your brain with all this uncertainty.
I’ve been holding on to this special note for a little bit now, because it can be hard to talk about, but I’m excited to share with you what I have learned.
Now first off, let me say that I know that not everyone has lost money due to COVID, and that is doesn’t HAVE to be this way.
(I actually have some friends who have grown their businesses in a big way this last year.)
But it would certainly describe me!!!
I’m going to be totally honest and say I’ve lost money in the past year!
And some of it I can’t help but blame myself for.
I have made a few mistakes.
Like I recently bought two sets of tickets from Japan to the USA–and lost $500 in cancellation fees.
D’oh.
Self blame is soooooo useful, right {{ subscriber.first_name }}?
Yeah no.When I am in a self blame space, it is not so good. It:
affects my confidence,
blocks me up from feeling worthy of good things happening,
and makes it hard for me to be excited about doing things that could solve problems.
So what do I do with that?
Luckily, I have a process to help me forgive myself
I guide you through a whole healing process in about 10 minutes.
What I have really learned is that all these situations are an opportunity to be more self-compassionate.
The triggers and pains we experience now can be our opportunity for deeper healing and self love.
You deserve love no matter what and it has nothing to do with your ability to make money, save money, or do anything right.
Give yourself an opportunity to learn without feeling crummy!
Remember: When we release the past we open to RECEIVE.
And when you have that ability to receive love and other things, you gain something new: JOY CURRENCY.
It’s something I made up that feels REAL good. I’ll talk about it more in the future.
For now, just try this: Get into a better space about your mistakes, love on yourself, and see what happens.
HELLO! It’s been a while since I introduced myself!
For those who haven’t met me yet, I’m Sofia Wren and I help empaths and sensitive people to make faster progress writing and creating for their books and businesses.
Today I want to share a few of my biggest dreams come true since I started this biz.
Publishing a book!
“Freedom Year: How Trying to be a Dominatrix (and Failing) Changed my Life” is done! After putting this out into the world, I feel like a bus could hit me and I would be alright with what I have done with my life.I love helping other people feel the satisfaction of getting a huge project done, just like I feel about this.
Getting my master’s degree!
Master’s in Spiritual Direction from Loyola Baltimore. Although the coaching programs I have taken help me serve other people a lot of ways, this degree really helps me take it to the next level. I help you tune into the spirit of your book or business, as well as your soul and the Universe, so you know what to do next.
Working on $10k marketing launches
Based on writing I posted on social media, a partner trusted me to be a writer and creative director for $10K launches for coaches and authors. We did this for several years.
Eventually, I transitioned to leading the team myself! I now enjoy the freedom of flying solo and focus on my own programs.
Now I use what I learned to help my clients get results for a fraction of that price–like with the personal attention I give all my clients in the Psychic Mermaid Mastermind.
Now I want to hear your proudest moments, too. No matter how big or small!
Once upon a time, I needed a life change. My life felt the same for years.I felt stuck. I needed this fresh energy.
Then I got a really good feeling about coming to Japan.
AND HERE’S A CRAZY FACT:
The month I got the idea to go to Japan was the same month my fiance moved there.
I never had the dream before. No particular love for anime or desire to spend a lot of time there.
But once I got the idea and felt the urge, I was committed.
I had no real reason to go…
Just that it felt like a calling and I believe in following my callings.
Well, babes, it took work and patience but I made to Japan.
And if all I did was meet my fiance, I would be happy with that! But since then, I have changed on a lot of levels.
I have checked off a lot of my dreams!!
And I want to help you check off your dreams, too.
So: here we are.
It is spring. That means:
Fresh energy. Sunrise. The opportunity to start a new.
What callings are coming to you now?
Are you ready to follow the callings that Spirit has laid out for you?
Whether you call Spirit another name, or feel the pull from your heart, your soul, your book-to-be, your mission, your business…My Psychic Mermaid Mastermind is a high touch container for your transformation.
You don’t have to wait until the pandemic is over to begin moving toward your dreams and callings.
My passion is helping you hear your intuition, follow your callings, and build your personal power so you always know what to do next.
If you are ready to:
-make faster progress writing and creating for your book, business, or other passion project…
-follow the influence of spiritual energy in everything you do in your life so your actions fit to advance you on your unique guided path…
-feel more psychic, and in the flow so you are always in the right place, at the right time…
I would love to see if my program can support you in doing this more consistently!
Even being just a little more consistent in following your callings in a higher way will open up your ability to receive and enjoy more.
