The Wrong Question to Ask re: Forgetting Good Ideas

by SofiaWren on March 21, 2024

A while ago, after I picked up an old notebook from 3 years before,

and what I read was gold,

ideas I’d written and forgotten and

now was just remembering all over again…

I HAD SUCH A GOOD IDEA, why did I do nothing with it?

Seeing this gold I’d forgotten so completely, I had to wonder:

Why do I forget my good ideas?

Am I hiding things from myself?

Is this self sabotage?

Will I ever straighten out my brain?

(Why can’t it work in ABC order instead of FMQ?)

Possible answers:

It’s trauma.

It’s neurodiversity.

It’s resistance.

I’m just complicated.

BUT ASKING WHY DIDN’T SOLVE THE PROBLEM.

All of my ideas used to be trapped

in notebooks, closed up, on a shelf, or

in various documents.

All over the place.

It was too much.

I mostly forgot things the instant I looked away.

At a certain point though, I just decided that…

“WHY DO I FORGET?”

Does. Not. Matter.

This is the WRONG question to ask.

Who cares. Enough.

The right question is:

Given that this is my pattern.

It is what it is.

Now WHAT?

So that leads me to much more useful answers:

like…

I HAVE TO MAKE IT EASIER TO FIND STUFF.

Being able to find stuff means being able to reread it.

And when I reread things THEN I REMEMBER.

Bam– solution.

OK easier said than done, though.

How to tame the:

messiest of drafts,

half-awake thoughts,

rants in the car talking out loud to myself…

Without it literally being a full time job?

To do that I tried a lot of things over the last ten years.

I kept looking and learning from different teachers until I found something that worked.

Finally, after a long search I’ve found a few free programs that have been really working for me.

Now I’ve been living a NEW LIFE and have been organizing the contents of my notebooks for several years straight.

Why do I care so much?

Because it is life changing:

Finding the right sections of my writing and rereading them is a magic spell:

Rereading those words is a spell that wakes me up from my Cinderella sleep.

It interrupts the patterns —

I’ll give you example of notes that WOKE ME UP recently. Keep reading below.

But this is why I am a full on digital organization geek now!

It’s for moments like this:

alighting on an old thought or piece of writing that I forgot about…

something that teaches me about myself,

about my feelings,

about HOW I WORK.

It feels so good.

It feels so right.

Like tumblers aligning, opening a lock, opening a door smooth as butter.

It’s jaw dropping just how easy it is to forget essential information and ideas like this.

Writing that moves me. The things I love.

I am celebrating how far I have come.

And if you want to learn what works for me…

Join the waitlist for the Digital Organization Membership

where I’ll share

my system for organizing my journals, content, and writing

plus

my system for organizing and making progress on projects.

and you’ll get 50% off

===> $30 total for 3 months of membership

only available for the first week it opens…

Click here to join the Digital Organization waitlist for more info.

And enjoy clips from my notebook below!

What’s in my notebook…

How have you been lately?

What’s in your notebook?

Me: I am burned out! I am recovering.

I still feel like my brain is broken.

Some things I am doing to recover:

I’m still trying to start my mornings off my phone, off email, off social media, and

instead write, heal, be in my own zone.

Lately I also review old journal entries I’ve digitized in the morning!

And it’s amazing to see what I always forget, the things that remain the same across time.

Like this one…

“Desires 2022:

I long for peace and quiet, but I feel like the priorities I circle around are money and business.

I tend to get lost in a never-ending hustle without conscious exertion of my intention to do otherwise.

I crave peace, solitude, safety, isolation, a buffer, a warmth, a reconnection with myself, a spiritual attuning, a wonder, a curiosity in the beauty that is already here, not chasing after something outside of me.

Those days I can look outside of the window and feel the whole world is open to me, without having to lift a finger. The power of my dreams, my imagination and who I already am.

This resonates so much with me TO THIS DAY.

As I read it, I noticed how being too tired to work on my business and make money is HIGH on my stress list.

It causes me to be hard on myself and impatient for things I can’t control.

And that can keep me from feeling my desired state of restoration.

I can totally forget this pattern I have to fixate on this.

How interesting to catch myself in the same stress pattern, longing for the same things.

AGAIN.

Also, I found a piece called “Money Does Not Equal Self Worth” that I wrote in 2019.

It speaks to the same theme, and

how I’ve overcome worrying about money when I only had $5 in my bank account.

(It’s now available on Patreon for $1.)

The point is: I FORGET important things

and I need a reminder.

My words are that reminder.

My notebooks are my lifeline.

I’m so grateful I can find these notes.

But since getting the reminder is NOT a given.

I am so grateful for it, every time.

These are the miracles that keep me going.

Thanks for reading!

P.S Click here to join the Digital Organization waitlist so you don’t miss the 50% special.

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Inspiration to Change the World

by SofiaWren on March 16, 2024

How are you feeling today?

I have a big update!!

Me now: TIRED (this is a very non anal post, take it as permission to let some typos go so you can write better yes yes!!)

But I’m also content. I got to sit on my balcony and read for a minute yesterday without wearing a coat.

And….

THE BIG NEWS IS!

We completed our fundraiser to pay Aminata’s college fees in Sierra Leone.

And she sent me a note to share with you to say thank you!

Things slowed down at the end of the fundraiser.

I suddenly crashed around the weekend energy wise (2024 has been a lot and this fundraiser was worth it but also a lot of energy to spearhead!)

In that tired headspace, calculating all the 18 contributions and figuring out the exchange, was kindof hard.

So I leaned back a little bit to rest.

I just got the final donation in person yesterday and after adding it up, it turns out after figuring the current exchange rates…

We actually raised a little more than needed! Over $600.

We will be giving it all to Aminata because everything helps and now she has it for another education fee, travel cost, or a few dollars for next year.

So there you go:

18 beautiful souls helped a young woman who lost her final parent in Sierra Leone go to college to continue her pharmacy program.

She has her route out of poverty and heavy labor secured.

Her Note of Thanks

Blessed Day everyone My name is Aminata. My heart and mouth is full of gratitude for what you have done for me. You don’t know me but yet still you gave me a chance to continue chasing after my dream. You gave me an opportunity to achieve the one plan my mother had for me and for that I am grateful. May God Almighty continue to richly bless and establish you on the path that you are on, may His light never depart from you and your family in Jesus name🙏🙏🙌🙌. Thank you for giving hope when it’s needed 🙏 God bless you 🙌🙌

YAYYYYY Thank you everyone

MORALE IS:

Please remember that no matter how tough the world is, it is possible to make a difference.

It doesn’t have to look like me and the way I do it, but we are all needed.

Just find where you are needed and sparkle light there, okay?

And if you need some help figuring out your corner to shine sparkles, don’t forget I have a free training to help you do that,

read on below!

Wishing you a good week.

xo

HOLY COW THERE IS A LOT OF GOOD STUFF FOR YOU THIS WEEK.

I’m not holding anything back!

I’m letting myself be “too much” and put “too much” in here because I can and because it delights me 😀

In this post:

A Class to Change the World
Article to Fit Writing In
A musical update
a podcast on deletion (again!)
A waitlist

Change the World:

Watch this 20 minute* class to Tap into the Leader You are Here to Be:

🌈 How to connect to the change you are here to make in the world

🌈 How to impact the world using your story, your talent & your writing for your book or business.

🌈 How to clarify your writing goals so they leave room for all of life but also stretch you to step into your true potential.

🌈 How to BE more of the leader you are here to be.

Watch the Free Class Here

Or you can also rewind to watch the video from the beginning for a 30 minute class,

to hear about my up and down journey helping my nonprofit in Sierra Leone (who connected us with Aminata), because changing the world can be HARD.

How did I keep going? This shares how.

You’ll hear more thoughts and lessons I’ve learned about service, leadership and making an impact from that.

If you are longing to connect to your place in things and the impact you are here to make give it all a watch <3

xo

Too busy to write?

When your life gets busy, squeezing in time for writing can seem like a daunting task.

Balancing work, family, and other responsibilities often leaves little room for creative pursuits.

I GET IT,

Here’s my advice on what to do so you can write for yourself, your book, or your life.

Read my short article for how to fit writing in on page 32 of On Purpose Woman Magazine!

This magazine is free & full of great stuff to read xo

Read my latest article “How to Fit Writing into a Busy Life”

P.S. I include making trackers for writing or other goals in my upcoming Digital Organization Membership, see more on that below.

Musical Update:

I am adding new things to Patreon!! Like this: The Story behind the song “New Dawn” During my first day in the studio, my producer heard my song, which I originally named Tides, and offered another way for me to arrange my song. He said I should change the name to New Dawn. That version kindof has a slow beachy vibe, a friend said it sounds like Sheryl Crow.

Many people really liked this version and encouraged me to stick with it, even my dad. On listening, I personally felt strongly that it didn’t match up with my vision for the song and knew I could sing it better with some adjustments….

But what do you think, do you like it?

Listen here and explore the other music & private writing up on Patreon now.

New Podcast: Conscious Deletion

Did you hear this? In case you didn’t, I’m including it again because it’s a BANGER.

TOO MUCH GOING ON, BABE?

Feel less weighed down and more potent and powerful as a writer or creator!

Listen to Andrea Hylen and I talk about the conscious deletion.

Instead of being bogged down by the past, you can reabsorb your power so you have energy for the next chapter.

Different places to listen:

Or watch and listen on Youtube:

Digital Organization Membership Coming Soon

Do you feel like you have potential that’s not being expressed?

Everyone talks about being consistent or motivated to write or achieve goals…

but what if you just need to be more organized so WHEN you are motivated, you can find things and get them done

bam bam boom…

Cuz how many times did you have an hour that was totally wasted since you couldn’t find anything or

didn’t really remember where you were in your project and basically scratched your head for 60 mins…

A recipe for frustration, procrastination, and not wanting to deal with this!!!

If you are hitting that block where you know you have a million ideas lost in a notebook on a shelf

if you are losing track of where your files are

if you have so many ideas it’s easy to lose track of what you were doing and what’s next

AND YOU ARE SO OVER THIS shiz

If you want to pop in, pop out of your projects, your book, your biz writing,

and actually get things done in the small amount of time you have to dedicate to them

If you want more peace of mind, and confidence that you are DOING IT

even when you aren’t actually doing it every second (juggle a kid, a job, another thing, etc.)

but you have a handle on your projects, and priorities, and where all your ideas are.

You feel something new, something magical:

you feel TRUST in yourself it’s happening

BECAUSE YOU ARE SO DAMN ORGANIZED.

(God does it feel good in this crazy world to have something under control a tiny bit omg.)

And then when you actually get something finished at last?

The relief. The high…

Getting stuff done successfully fuels motivation!

Then you’ll actually feel positive next time

and confident that when you next sit down to work, you’ll plow through another thing.

So you can take a niiiiiiice easy breathe.

Phew. Phew!!

OMG the peace of doing a thing you’ve been wanting to get done for ages, am I right?

Something is coming soon to help you:

-Clean up your business, project or writing files so you feel less overwhelmed and can focus on whats next

-Always know what to do next step by step so you finish your projects, reach your goals and fulfill your intentions

-Stop forgeting important details about your projects and next steps because you set the time aside to store them in one easy to find place.

WHOOOOOO! Are you as excited as I am?

I AM OPENING THE DIGITAL ORGANIZATION MEMBERSHIP SOON

Join the waitlist to get news about the 50% off early bird special AKA:

===> $30 total for 3 months of membership

only available for the first week it opens…

Click here to join the Digital Organization waitlist.

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A Simple Solution for Overwhelm

by SofiaWren on March 7, 2024

How are you feeling today?

Me: less overwhelmed, having fun watching Survivor, enjoying warm days.

I have a LOT going on. So last week I knuckled down to work on feeling less overwhelmed:

I got organized by sorting my to-do items by project and then ranking my priorities. It really helps me feel less overwhelmed, more grounded, and more clear-minded so I know where to start.

(This is a process we do in the Digital Organization Membership, which will open again soon!)

Luckily, this was a day before my colleague asked me to start a fundraiser to help Aminata, a young woman in Sierra Leone, go to college. It’s imperative I did the prep before so I had the capacity to fit that in.

Everything I do is for future me. If I don’t try to do this fundraiser, I know she’ll regret it. So it’s important I clear the noise and know my real priorities.

Maybe this is something that will simplify things for you as well.

Wishing you a good week.

Maybe I’ll see you for the Tarot party charity event for Aminata on March 8 🙂

And you might also like the podcast I recorded for you this week! Deletion is HOT.

xo

In this post:

A podcast on deletion
A teaser

New Podcast: Conscious Deletion

Feel less weighed down and more potent and powerful as a writer or creator!

Listen to Andrea Hylen and I talk about the conscious deletion.

Instead of being bogged down by the past, you can reabsorb your power so you have energy for the next chapter.

Watch now:

Or listen on :

Spotify

iTunes

Digital Organization Membership Coming Soon

Do you feel like you have potential that’s not being expressed?

Something is coming soon to help you:

-Focus on what is important and feel less overwhelmed by cleaning up your business, project or writing files

-Develop your projects and get clear on what to do next to finish

-Make notes so you don’t ever forget important details about your projects and next steps in one easy to find place.

In our monthly meetings, you’ll be guided to create a central project hub in the free Notion app that you will come back to monthly.

These projects can be writing projects, business projects or life projects

Each month you’ll learn skills to simplify and accelerate your projects

through digital organizing, planning, & accountability

You’ll also get bonus classes about the free software I use for writing and organizing content for dozens of articles, videos, emails, blogs, launches and more: Obsidian.

Join the waitlist to get news about the early bird special of $30 total for 3 months of membership:

Click here to join the Digital Organization waitlist.

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Tarot for Charity Party

by SofiaWren on March 4, 2024

Tarot for Charity event with sofia wren and kris oster, tues nov 11 at 3:30 pm pacific or 6:30 pm est

“Kris’s Tarot Card reading was insightful, enlightening, and spot-on. I have had many readings through the years and no one has provided as much accuracy and clarity as Kris. She truly forms a genuine connection and has an astounding comprehension of the messages within the cards. I highly recommend tapping into Kris’s talent and getting a reading, you will not be disappointed!” – Theresa, California

“Kris is an amazing teacher and writer full of light, wisdom and emanates joy in her teachings. Also the best Tarot card reader. Have recommended several friends to have readings and Kris is always generous, bringing light to the issues with insight and accuracy. Love her 💖 highly recommended her classes and readings.” – Colleen, California

“Kris has such a nurturing warmth and love that just oozes from her every word and act and then you couple it with a natural intuitiveness, skills with tarot cards, and her business savvy, and you have one very special and unique women who thrives in this realm! I loved our soul session together; it was affirming for the direction I’m going in creatively, personally, and professionally and encouraging as well to continue listen to my instincts and intuition in all aspects of my life. I highly recommend doing a business soul strategy session with Kris if you’re going in a new direction with your business or creating a new one from the ground up.” – Rachel, California

Join me and Kris Seraphine for an online Tarot party

Tuesday Nov 11th
3:30-4:30 PM pacific / 6:30-7:30 PM Eastern

My friend Kris Seraphine and I will be fundraising for 2 young women named Ismatu and Aminata to go to college in Sierra Leone and

giving out Tarot readings to everyone who donates $25 or more!

We’re just $800 away from our fundraising goal – that’s 36 donations of $25.

Come and share with your friends so we can reach our goal. Let’s make a big impact together.

Donate $25.00 to the fundraiser here to qualify to attend for free!

Or scroll down for instructions to pay through paypal.

More information:

What is the cause?

We are raising college fees for women in Sierra Leone.

For two years running, we have successfully raised money for two young women to attend college.

This fundraiser is the only reason they are able to attend and have not dropped out due to lack of funds!

Considering only 1% of women in Sierra Leone get to go to college, this is an amazing opportunity for them to gain financial independence in a place where women face many human rights abuses.

This fundraiser has already finished collecting fees for Ismatu!

We are now collecting funds to support Aminata’s next year (year 4) in university:

-Year 4 pharmacy degree student

-Orphaned, her parents died shortly after enrolling in college

-comes from a city with low female literacy in Sierra Leone

Why it matters

It is rare for women to go to university there, only 1% of women in Sierra Leone have any college education, so we want to make sure Ismatu and Aminata can finish their degrees.

Less than 1 out of 5 women where she is from can read a sentence, so it would be a shame for her to reach this level of education and then be forced to drop out because she lacks a few hundred dollars.

Aminat and Ismatu want to use their degrees to get a paying job after university and to help others in their community.

Can I learn more about this nonprofit?

Her Future Foundation is an organization dedicated to empowering girls and ending sexual violence in Sierra Leone.

Her Future Foundation organizes transformational gender-based programming, and identifies vulnerable girls and women who need resources to avoid female genital mutilation (FGM), child marriage, gender-based violence, and sexual assault.

They help us to direct resource to where it will make the most impact to help girls and women in Sierra Leone.

Click here to read more about this fundraiser and the nonprofit Her Future Foundation.

What we need:

Thanks for coming. We only need about $800 total for our final student Aminata. That’s 32 donations of $25.

Please spread the word.

This degree will change Ismatu and Aminata’s lives!

How much is it?

Everyone who donates $25 or more between now and the party can get a live Tarot reading!
Feel free to come and support even if you haven’t donated–you might hear something that resonates.

How to Join the Tarot Party

Join live on Zoom:

Click here to register for the live zoom

Tuesday Nov 11

3:30-4:30 PM pacific / 6:30-7:30 PM Eastern

How to Donate:

Send your donation to one of the places below.

The suggested donation to get a reading is $25 but ANY amount helps.

Preferred–Donate through GivenGain to send it directly to the Her Future Foundation organization.

Pay through GivenGain

2. If you feel more comfortable sending payment via Paypal, you can send the money to Sofia, who will transfer it to Her Future Foundation in Sierra Leone for Ismatu’s college fees.

Venmo @Sofia-Nitchie or
PayPal https://www.paypal.me/SofiaNitchie

Your Tarot Readers

Sofia Wren:

(From Sofia: This is a special treat – I rarely offer Tarot Readings outside of my private coaching!)

Sofia, the “mermaid wrangler”, helps you tap into your power to write and create awe-striking things.

Sofia Wren is a writer, musician, and spiritual support for writers, creators, and entrepreneurs around the world. She helps sensitive people who are grinding or circling around to know exactly what to do next to make progress on their books and businesses.

With spot-on intuition, positive vibes, and a gift for words that inspire, she has a passion for helping unconventional people to always know what to do next because they can hear their intuition and trust it.

Praise for Sofia:

“I had my reading with Sofia Wren today. It felt really sacred and perfect!

I had been feeling agitated and stressed off and on for the last week and was looking for relief.

The amazing thing was that out of the three cards Sofia pulled all of them spoke to different aspects of my life that had been bothering me. She opened the door ways to insights that I had not seen clearly before.

She facilitated a shift in energy and gave me practical tools to take away and integrate. Emotions that had been stuck bubbled up and were able to be cleared. After my session I felt calmer and more inspired, I felt like I had a focused path to follow.

Thank you Sofia.” – Kate Burkett

Kris Oster:

I’ve been reading Tarot since age 12 and have been channeling angels, goddesses, spirit guides and passed-over loved ones for as long as I can remember.

Professionally, I’m an author, tarot reader, reiki healer, astrologer, archetypal brand strategist and marketing copywriter who helps entrepreneurial Healers, Coaches & Priestesses create mythic & monetizable brands that become the stuff of legends.

Once upon a time, I was a corporate marketing director and lead website developer for some pretty big names, including Citrix Online, E! Entertainment Television, Disney, ABC, Paramount Pictures. I received my PH.D in Mythological Studies from Pacifica Graduate Institute where I studied mythology and depth psychology with such luminaries as Marion Woodman and James Hillman. I have helped hundreds of entrepreneurs create a business and livelihood that feels pleasurable, alluring and that reflects their authentic vision.

You can learn more about me at

Sending you oceans of love,

Kris

Praise for Kris:

“I received a business tarot reading from Kris. I was delighted. I am an artist and the typical business coaching session leaves me uninspired and kinda dry. Kris’s approach in combining the the tarot with her business skills was very effective for me. It brought the magic and mystery, that I so love, into the dry parts of my work. I guess what pleased me the most is that she completely spun the concept of business around for me. Kris showed me that the business parts don’t have to be boring, that by mixing it up with the sacred and magical it can be fun and so much more effective. I feel a little like she infused my business with Spirit. I received great business advice in a way that I could hear it and in a way that I am actually excited to carry out. I highly recommend a tarot business reading from Kris.” – Terre, California

“Kris’s Tarot Card reading was insightful, enlightening, and spot-on. I have had many readings through the years and no one has provided as much accuracy and clarity as Kris. She truly forms a genuine connection and has an astounding comprehension of the messages within the cards. I highly recommend tapping into Kris’s talent and getting a reading, you will not be disappointed!” – Theresa, California

“Kris is an amazing teacher and writer full of light, wisdom and emanates joy in her teachings. Also the best Tarot card reader. Have recommended several friends to have readings and Kris is always generous, bringing light to the issues with insight and accuracy. Love her 💖 highly recommended her classes and readings.” – Colleen, California

“Kris has such a nurturing warmth and love that just oozes from her every word and act and then you couple it with a natural intuitiveness, skills with tarot cards, and her business savvy, and you have one very special and unique women who thrives in this realm! I loved our soul session together; it was affirming for the direction I’m going in creatively, personally, and professionally and encouraging as well to continue listen to my instincts and intuition in all aspects of my life. I highly recommend doing a business soul strategy session with Kris if you’re going in a new direction with your business or creating a new one from the ground up.” – Rachel, California

“When you have a reading with Kris, you know it’s going to be a magical experience. It’s not just that she’s got the whole sexy mermaid thing going on, being able to go into the depths of the subconscious and find the pearls and treasures lost to us, bringing them back to the surface. No, it’s more than that. She sings a siren song that lures us to our dreams, to the steps that we need to explore and to the beat we need to dance to in order for our dreams to become manifest. In that way, she seduces us with our own wild souls, and entices us to invoke our own inner powers. Her readings are accurate and exploratory, delving into areas of my business ideas that I had been keeping on the back-burner. As we immersed ourselves into the dark seas of these ideas, her readings helped me find my compass, my light and my magic. Without these, I would still be adrift on a sea of wishes and dreams that would amount to nothing. Now, armed and shimmering with magical ocean spray, I feel more than confident that I can achieve what I want and go after what I need, enchanted and empowered, and wickedly alive.” – Cynthia, United Kingdom

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The Reminder we all need

by SofiaWren on February 28, 2024

How are you feeling today?

I’m feeling optimistic about the future.

I’ve had a lot of anxiety and overwhelm so far this year, juggling a number of things.

This week I set some boundaries, like I want to avoid using my phone in the first hour of the day.

So far, so good, it’s been a generative week and I have much to share with you.

In fact, there’s so much in this post, I’ll need to hold some back for later:

including my recently renewed passion for uploading music and goodies to Patreon.

You can take a peak now but I’ll talk more about that in the future!

For this FunLetter:

A new video
A new article
A reminder
An invitation

New Video: Best Places to Write Online in 2024

What are the best places to write and publish online today?

From 10 years in business, and 20+ years publishing writing online, I have learned that the only constant is change.

Plus, there are hugely personal factors that go into evaluating the best place to write and publish.

So there is no one-size-fits-all.

Still, I always find it helpful to hear other people’s experiences:

Where are they writing or marketing themselves?
How is it going?
How hard is it to be seen versus the effort they put in?
How are they enjoying it?

I’ve learned so much from people sharing this kind of stuff, so I’ll share, as well.

I’m writing in 10 places, right now.

Now, you probably don’t need to do the same, but you might be wondering…

Which one is my favorite?

I’ll tell you.

As for the other 9 places, I’ll go through them in order of preference.

You’ll hear key points about each platform I write on in this video on youtube.

New Article: Stop Scrolling if you are in agony writing about the past.

I see you! You are thinking about and writing about past events, wringing them, squeezing out the meaning or value.

You want to write it so you can share it with the world,

or debate if you should because it might help you to be more authentic, promote your career, or teach people what you know…

but what if you share and people won’t understand? What if it backfires?

Maybe you have been thinking about writing this for years. Perhaps you have something you want to figure out:

Why did things happen that way? What did it mean?

Who was the asshole? You? Them?

How do you put it all into words the right way?

And a part of you wonders if you can ever really share your full story, full dreams, full emotions, full thoughts…

could you really?

A. Read the rest of the article for my thoughts on this and what to do next.

B. Not a Medium member? Get free link to every article I post on Medium.com, join my weekly email FunLetter community!)

A Quick Reminder:

Your experiences do not have meaning.

Your experiences are meaningless.

If you’re looking to your story for some kind of meaning, remember that you’re the one who chooses what meaning it has.

You make the meaning.

You are the only one with that power because this is your life. You are powerful.

Reminder: You are Powerful

An Invitation:

Here’s how I KNOW we are an aligned fit to work together for a 6-Month Writing Mentorship:

You want more authenticity in how you BE, how you write your book or content, how you share, or how you promote your business.

If it’s feeling hard or stifled, and limited—I can help!

You want to WRITE

You want to heal your stories and be more yourself. Less fear. More flow.

You want writing to feel more fun and authentic. You want to feel good, you want to feel proud of what you have written.

You want someone to have your back as you try to write and share. Someone nonjudgmental but knowledgable.

You feel overwhelmed or discouraged.

You feel like at the end of the day, your mental health and stress level is really key, so you want the kind of help that will help you relax, not stress you more.

You want to feel held and understood in the writing process.

You need a loving space to let yourself unfurl so you can finally get authentic, good writing out into the world to the people who need to hear it.

You know that more self-acceptance, more wholeness, more self-celebration, and confidence can only be a good thing.

Connecting with yourself on a deeper level builds up your resilience, and you know that you can’t have too much of that.

And if you want to do that while writing to market your business, I can do that, too!

Elevate Your Writing Skills &

Unleash Your Authentic Voice:

I am receiving applications for partial scholarships…

Contact me to talk about it or discover what service or program is right for your project and budget.

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You don’t need fixing

by SofiaWren on February 21, 2024

How are you feeling today?

I’ve been a bit tired!

The year of 2024 so far has felt like a whirlwind and I have been trying to catch my breath.

I have been on social media more the last month to promote things.

This has been really powerful but it does take a lot out of me.

It’s just the way it interacts with me.

So I’m pondering how to meet myself where I am while still showing up publicly…

I’ll keep you posted about what I figure out.

(But these FunLetters are staying, they are by far my FAVORITE way to share.)

Today I’m sharing an article I wrote a week ago in case you missed it.

As a reminder that you don’t need to be ‘fixed.’

You can still catch the replay to the Be Your Own Best Friend class–more info below.

Listen Up: Stop Trying to Fix Yourself

Grow your capacities and strengths instead.

Once upon a time, I was desperate to fix myself.

But it turns out that this was a waste of my time.

This might be controversial to say

Some people are so deluded and blind to their issues that we all WISH they would see. That drives you crazy, right? Me, too.

But on the other hand, many amazing women, and very cool men, get fixated on this cycle of fixing themselves. I used to be one of them.

But the endless cycle of trying to fix issues never gets to the real root.

At the root of so many of my persistent issues has been a gap.

A gap, stemming from a time or an area where I didn’t get the care, connection, or consideration that I needed.

Trying to “fix myself” often amounted to saying that I only really deserve love on the other side of that change: when I completed the change I would be okay, but not now, and not until it was fixed.

Fixing myself just doesn’t work

Why? Because I never reached the end no matter how hard I tried.

I couldn’t help but keep moving my goalposts farther away. There was always more fixing to do.

It seems simple to me now. It is difficult for me to make a change in the first place if I don’t offer myself love and acceptance as I already am…

Read the rest of the article on Medium

“Be Your Own Best Friend” Replay Available

It’s not too late to see the replay of the workshop!

Are you feeling:

-Overwhelmed and exhausted from constantly seeking personal growth without finding a sense of fulfillment? Stuck on a never-ending treadmill of personal development?

-Yearning for someone who can provide consistent, nonjudgmental support and understanding in your journey? Feeling isolated and lonely?

-Finding it hard to express your true thoughts and feelings for fear of being hurt, dismissed, or made wrong? Difficulty being fully honest and understood?

If so, these are all great reasons to come to my “Be Your Own Best Friend” Workshop to focus on

the most precious relationship you have:

The relationship you have with yourself!

It is the foundation of everything.

Ready to deepen your connection with yourself? Join me and my friend Kate in Paradise in our upcoming transformative workshop!

Discover the empowerment and relief that comes from radical self-acceptance and self-compassion.

We’ll dive into practical ways to do this and practice the tools together.

Inside the two class replays, you will:

– Embrace self-acceptance and feel understood without judgment.

– Connect with yourself on a deeper level and build resilience.

– Celebrate your achievements and feel a sense of wholeness.

Invest in yourself through this $38 workshop and feel the difference that comes from being your own best friend in a bigger way.

Afterward, you’ll have the tools to feel more supported anytime, even if no one can answer the phone to talk.

Don’t miss out – grab the replay today!

Click here to join the Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop

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Took me by Surprise…When Fun and Inspiration Strike

by SofiaWren on February 16, 2024

It’s been a weird day for me, what about you?

I didn’t think I was going to be able send out my weekly FunLetter this week. That’s what I call my email newsletter.

I had sent emails earlier in the week but it wasn’t on Wednesday/Thursday, so my life just felt unfinished.

I love sending emails, do you? Highly recommend.

There’s a $3 sale happening today on a great resource I really want to let you know about.

Anyway, I woke up with no energy. I’ve taught 3 classes this week.

[[Sidenote, there’s another Be Your Own Best Friend Class next week, see below]].

Despite how depleted I have felt, I just got re-energized by talking to my pal Liz Wilcox,

she’s an expert on email, and is a future contestant on Survivor (!!! next season starts Feb 28!!!)

Amazing how some positive energy can really turn a day around.

Anyway she reminded me about her sale-

she’s offering her amazing email template membership for only $3/month until midnight EST tonight.

that motivated me to share about it.

Do you want to email more?

Could you use ideas to make writing emails fun or effective?

Check it out, I love it.

What are you celebrating?

Liz and I were also talking about our celebrations, what about you?

It’s Friday, let’s give ourselves some credit.

What happened this week that was good?

For me — Wednesday, I finally updated the bio on my website, and I’m so happy with it!

Read my new bio page here

I have been meaning to give it an update for the last year.

I talked about this in my Bio Refresh Class over the summer. That brainstorm session gave me so many ideas (and the replay is available so you can update your bio with me),

But in the end, I still needed more time to get to the next chapter of my life so I could describe my life better.

NOW it feels official:

I am in a new chapter of life and this is documented in my bio page.

Man that feels good.

But what’s really crazy to me is that

I didn’t even mean to work on my website.

I was just watching a clip of this video from my dad’s first death anniversary.

This video means a lot to me, to this day.

I put a lot of heart into it.

I felt called to rewatch it on Wednesday because I was feeling a lot of grief, as I do.

And it really helped me get inspired.

I let the music and the meaning of what I shared in my video inspire me to write about how my story has evolved over the past few years since then.

Writing has been an amazing tool for me to be a best friend to myself.

And it never stops giving.

I hope its a love you get to experience as well.

Because I use it for ME, my life, not just my career,

there’s a lot of writing that goes on behind the scenes.

You might not see every single word I write, but that’s why I have these emails to put extra energy behind the words I really don’t want you to miss.

Thank you so much for being in my email community —

sending these emails is one of my favorite things to do.

And if you want to send emails of your own–

if you are interested in pouring love into the emails you send, or

you want to start sending emails,

My pal Liz Wilcox has an amazing membership of templates to make things easier for you, while still expressing your individuality.

She’s doing a list-building challenge next week and there are many other bonuses.

You get everything for $3 if you sign up tonight.

Check it out if you like, or you can join us for the final session of Be Your Own Best Friend (below).

See you in my next FunLetter

xo

“Be Your Own Best Friend” Workshop Continues Next Week

It’s not too late to join us for the next live workshop!

Are you feeling:

-Overwhelmed and exhausted from constantly seeking personal growth without finding a sense of fulfillment? Stuck on a never-ending treadmill of personal development?

-Yearning for someone who can provide consistent, nonjudgmental support and understanding in your journey? Feeling isolated and lonely?

-Finding it hard to express your true thoughts and feelings for fear of being hurt, dismissed, or made wrong? Difficulty being fully honest and understood?

If so, these are all great reasons to come to my “Be Your Own Best Friend” Workshop to focus on

the most precious relationship you have:

The relationship you have with yourself!

It is the foundation of everything.

Ready to deepen your connection with yourself? Join me and my friend Kate in Paradise in our upcoming transformative workshop!

Discover the empowerment and relief that comes from radical self-acceptance and self-compassion.

We’ll dive into practical ways to do this and practice the tools together.

Inside the two live Zoom sessions and replays, you will:

– Embrace self-acceptance and feel understood without judgment.

– Connect with yourself on a deeper level and build resilience.

– Celebrate your achievements and feel a sense of wholeness.

Invest in yourself through this $38 workshop and feel the difference that comes from being your own best friend in a bigger way.

Afterward, you’ll have the tools to feel more supported anytime, even if no one can answer the phone to talk.

Don’t miss out – reserve your spot now!

Final Live Class on Wed Feb 21 at 3 PM EST

Click here to join the Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop

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What Elmo and I Share (It’s Not the Color Red)

by SofiaWren on February 8, 2024

Hi! How are you feeling today?

I heard that Elmo asked this question online and it got a really big reaction.

Why?

I think so many people have feelings that they don’t have space to share.

Maybe a little bit here, and there, but not all the time.

It turns out Elmo and I share a similar philosophy.

I want these emails to be fun

(in fact, I’m going to start calling them FunLetters!)

AND real emotions always have a place here.

Feelings are okay, even difficult ones.

When you feel heard and understood, it can instantly change your life —

so those parts of you need to be allowed to be here, as well.

Picture this: The worst moments of your life aren’t so bad anymore. And you didn’t have to spend all year changing your life.

There’s something that happens to ruin your day, it may not be new, but it’s at it again.

Whether it is out of your control, or you can’t even face dealing with it, yet, this time something is different.

Instead of feeling only the weight of it all on your shoulders, that you have to figure it out, you feel an additional presence —

it is another part of you, the wiser part, the part that has perspective, the part that is so above all of this.

It knows whatever happens:

You matter.
You are worthy of love.
You can do this.
You are special.
Your feelings are reasonable and understandable

Now this is a safe space where you can cry,

you can rage,

you can feel anything,

and whatever you feel is totally accepted and held without judgement, and only love.

And when you are ready and not a moment before, your guide will lead you forward to the next thing you need to do to take care of yourself.

But you feel relief because now you are not feeling so alone, on your own, you against the world…and sometimes that solves 90% of the problem.

Because that’s when you remember that you are capable,

and that this situation doesn’t mean anything about you necessarily,

you are just a human.

A human who knows how to be her own best friend.

If you want help to stop feeling alone with your problems, and

have immediate access to the feeling of being supported even when no one can answer the phone —

Join us for the Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop workshop coming up Feb 14!

& check out the replay of my latest interview & article on the topic.

1. Interview: Having a Better Relationship with Myself

My Goal in 2023 was to Have a Better Relationship with Myself. Here’s How it Went.

I talked to Ginny Robertson in an interview about my goal last year to have a better relationship with myself–

and here is the replay!

This goal is so important to me as I grieve my father’s death.

It’s been two years, but there’s still grief and not enough support,

which is why it’s so important to be my own best friend. But it’s been so good I want everyone to hear about it.

Hear what I learned by making my relationship to myself my priority for a full year.

I talk about the two important key elements of this process needed to make a change happen:

Watch the replay of this interview

2. “Be Your Own Best Friend” Workshop Starts in 1 Week

Valentine’s Day is coming up–

and what is the most precious relationship you have?

The one you have with yourself!

It is the foundation of everything.

Ready to deepen your connection with yourself, join me and my friend Kate in Paradise in our upcoming transformative workshop!

Discover the empowerment and relief that comes from radical self-acceptance and self-compassion.

We’ll dive into practical ways to do this and practice the tools together.

Inside the two live Zoom sessions and replays, you will:

– Embrace self-acceptance and feel understood without judgment.

– Connect with yourself on a deeper level and build resilience.

– Celebrate your achievements and feel a sense of wholeness.

Invest in yourself through this $38 workshop and feel the difference that comes from being your own best friend in a bigger way.

Afterward, you’ll have the tools to feel more supported anytime, even if no one can answer the phone to talk.

Don’t miss out – reserve your spot now!

Live on Wed Feb 14 & Feb 21 at 3 PM EST.

Click here to join the Be Your Own Best Friend Workshop

3. Article: How I Finally Reached My Potential

I have always felt like I had untapped potential and recently I began to think I am fulfilling that potential at last.

After a year, this goal of providing myself more support and being my own best friend has really paid off.

Our successful fundraiser last week made me feel so accomplished! Thanks for all your support.

Click here to read the article!

Have a cool day

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Something Big is Happening (And egads! Soon.)

by SofiaWren on February 2, 2024

Update to the post below: We did it!

We managed to raise enough money between us all to send Ismatu to university on Monday.

You can still send an additional donation to Her Future Foundation, the nonprofit in Sierra Leone that is helping girls get an education using this link.

(This will go to their general fund as they are waiting for grants to be approved. This is an older fundraiser that I created but you can still donate here!)

together we raised over 90% of the yearly fees including everything due on Monday 2/5/2024.

It has been a pleasure to see all the energy behind this support for Ismatu.

I think many of us are world weary and it is refreshing to be a part of something so good.

So that is the update! A happy ending.

My previous post is below in case you missed it and have no idea what I am talking about lol or who Ismatu is.

This is a big deal. We are all so amazingly powerful, don’t forget you can do more than you even know you can!

Xo

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I was on the phone last year with an amazing young girl from Sierra Leone.

She told me that she used to be scared.

Ismatu is her name–

She said as a young, Muslim, indigenous girl, it was scary to visit communities where she knew no one.

But she wanted to talk to the women there.

She wanted to talk to them about traditions that hurt women like FGM, and why it must stop.

Over 90% of women there have already gone through FGM.

She wants to change the cycle.

So even though it was scary and uncomfortable, Ismatu had a mission to help women and girls.

So she kept going. That fear did not stop her.

Where she is from 90% of women cannot read a sentence.

Not only did she finish high school,

but she won a regional high school debate on the topic,

“Why Girls Deserve an Education.”

We want to see her succeed.

We want to see her shine brighter.

We want to see a girl like her, blooming out of rough soil, show everyone in her country what girls can do.

We want to amplify her voice.

I am a part of a movement to support girls and women in Sierra Leone,

in a place where it is not unusual to marry girls as young as 8,

and to require FGM of all women.

It never heals right. It’s awful.

Over 50% of women are scared of their husbands.

Don’t get me started on the rates of women who believe violence is deserved.

Sexual assault of minors is so common,

it’s been declared a national emergency.

WE NEED A MOVEMENT OF CHANGE

What better person to lead a movement of change than a girl, like Ismatu?

There is a Problem and an Opportunity

We believe in Ismatu.

But this brilliant, rare girl, doesn’t have $500 USD to go to university.

I just found out that she needs it by Monday, Feb 5.

AND I THINK WE CAN DO IT

WE CAN HELP HER KEEP GOING ON HER MISSION.

To end FGM, violence against women and ensure a good future for all girls.

How?

If 17 amazing souls donate $25 –

that’s $425 right there.

I can donate the rest ($100).

That will cover her schooling and the fees to get it to her.

But it has to happen by Monday.

The good news is some people have already raised their hand.

Me + them = $400 pledged.

$125 to go.

We just need 5 more volunteers to send her $25.

Are you one of them?

Do you want to help us ease the path of this gorgeous soul who wants to advocate for girls and women?

So she can be a shining example to them all?

God, I want to see that.

(Note: This fundraiser has ended! But you can send donations anytime to this fundraiser to Her Future Foundation, the nonprofit advocating for girls like Ismatu.

Put your money in girl power.

DONATION LINK:

Donate to Her Future Foundation

Thank you + please spread the word,

you can forward this email or

share this youtube video!

This video is also on facebook.

Even if you can’t donate, it would help if you commented, liked or share this video on facebook

Thanks!!

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by SofiaWren on January 31, 2024

How do you feel as January turns to February?

I’m feeling lighter and excited for what is to come.

I have a lot of goodies for you today –

a sale, a workshop, an article & a video.

FYI Today is the last day for a sale on basically my favorite service–the personal writing mentorship.

It shocks me how helpful this kind of support can be across writing, business, and life:

Flow, authenticity, and personal expression all abound by the end of the journey.

If that sounds good, check out the sale below!

Other things to explore today:

-Check out the low-priced workshop happening Feb 14th,

-click the free link to read the “Pranks My Husband Pulled on Me in Japan,” or

-enjoy my latest video, “Why I’m Not on Substack.”

1. 12 for 10 sale ends today!

-You want to heal your stories and be more yourself. Less fear. More flow.

-You want to write your book.

-You want to use writing to promote your service-based business.

Does any of that sound like you?

Want help?

(You can get 12 months of mentorship for the price of 10.)

2. “BE YOUR OWN BEST FRIEND WORKSHOP”

New Low-priced workshop:

Maybe you know you have some trouble supporting yourself through challenges, or

maybe you know your relationship with yourself could be BETTER.

You could feel more held, more loved, more understood, more cherished.

More nurtured, more nourished, more gotten, more precious.

And maybe this feeling would help you knock out a few big goals that would change your life for the better this year!

I’m so excited for this upcoming class with my friend Kate in Paradise.

Writing has helped me to improve my relationship with myself.

I’ll share my favorite writing exercises for this and a whole bunch more!

We’ll teach you how to be a better best friend to yourself through writing and somatic tools.

February 14th & 21st

$38