Overwhelmed? Simple thing to do

by April March 12, 2025

How are you?

Lots has been going on, and life is up and down, but I keep finding my way up.

Today I am sharing:

an article I wrote on what to focus on if you are overwhelmed.
an upcoming Tarot for Charity Event

And good news! We completed our fundraiser to send Ismatu to college! More below.

If you are feeling overwhelmed, I wrote something for you:

What should you do if you are overwhelmed?

When things feel chaotic, in my opinion, the best thing you can do is look at your foundation.

It’s stressful and overwhelming, so it can be hard to know where to start–all you have to do is pick something foundational from this list below.

Work on any part of your foundation– When in doubt, you really cannot go wrong.

Shore up your foundation and you will feel less anxiety and more grounded.

Feel free to make your own list, but for me, my foundation includes:

My Mental Health:

getting support or therapy; assessing how I am feeling; determining where I need boundaries, or what I am stressed about and taking action accordingly; spending time with friends and hobbies that support mental health.
My Relationship with Myself:

changing my self talk or perception; having more self compassion; forgiving my mistakes so I can move on while learning from them; having patience with the fact that I need rest or other things and meeting those needs that I have.
My Physical Health:

making doctor appointments; exercising; deciding meals to cook; eating well; taking vitamins; showering.
My Home:

getting functional shelves or containers; decluttering old items; organizing my things; cleaning things; repairing things; car maintenance
My Presentation:

playing with everything in my wardrobe; finding items that are missing; enjoying how I look; getting a haircut or color; trying a new hairstyle; wearing makeup I have or deciding what I need. (I find when I look good, I feel better.)
My Admin:

taxes; paying bills; processing mail; dealing with paperwork that needs doing; organizing budgets; renewing passports; requesting documents.

Yes, that is a lot of things.

You do not have to tackle all of this at once, think of this list as a list of OPPORTUNITIES to feel better: you can start with whatever feels most natural and easy for you.

As you begin to build a solid foundation bit by bit, you gain strength. Each step makes it easier to handle other parts of the list, and your foundation becomes wider and stronger. You will feel the difference.

That’s what makes something foundational– it sits at the root under all the little stuff. It is enduring which means the energy you spend there will pay off greatly in time.

Things have been stressful for me since my dad died in 2021. Believe me I had a lot to deal with.

Accordingly, I’ve gone to my roots and foundation, continually reflecting on how to shore up my foundation. Over the past few years I chipped away at this list.

Now I can really see a big difference. It has really been evident recently how far I have come. I no longer have those niggles of feeling like my life is on fire.

I know it can be overwhelming especially in the beginning.

Here are three ways I can help if you are overwhelmed:

1. Optimism

If you don’t think it’s possible to feel less chaos in your life…you are probably right.

I created a low cost Program called Optimism to help you feel it is possible to be successful.

And it’s about getting things done.

It’s a home study course that includes a class to help you get started on doing all the things that will help you have a more positive outlook on life. This includes helping you find what is foundational for you to focus on right now.

The workbook included will help you to set goals, and mark your progress week by week. You’ll have tools to address challenges and keep track of what is working the best.

Get the Optimism Program to feel more grounded and capable of tackling the things that need tackling.