Story time: I’ve never really enjoyed things that take a long time to happen.
I loved running–no, sorry, ‘walking’ as fast as possible but not quite running–down the hallways of middle school.
Then I would plunk in my chair and read as fast as I could so I could get to the end.
When the teacher began class, I’d close the book and tilt it to assess what percentage I had read, how close I was to the end.
I wanted to GET THERE.
These days there are so many opportunities to go viral–to explode and for it to be FAST.
I understand the appeal for that.
Instant success, career support, influence to change the world.
Being a bestseller. Huge crowds. Being on talk shows.
Wow. Wouldn’t that be amazing?
And it does happen…
But the thing is that when people are in a hurry, they miss things.
I know because I did. One day I was hustling along in my life and then I looked up and realized, I’d sped-walked my way totally in the wrong direction.
I didn’t take things through all the layers I’ve shared with you.
I didn’t come back to center and ask what I really wanted enough times to understand my priorities.
One day I realized I had adopted priorities that were not mine–I’d acted as if success in my career was all that mattered and once I was successful then I would be ‘enough’.
To prioritize all that, I’d learned to ignore major feelings I had and participated in invalidating myself.
When I realized it, I saw I’d put all this work and effort in for years, going in a direction I didn’t like anymore.
I was unhappy, and I didn’t even know who I was or what I really wanted.
I’d missed a lot of things in favor of working…
Was it worth it? No, but I did learn in the end.
I learned to slow down enough to check in with myself.
Believe me, I still whiz around a LOT but I work really hard to take that time to reconnect.
Because my inner world is just as important as the outside world, if not 10x more. That is where my inner genius is.
The truth is that things are changing all the time.
That when my priorities are different than how I was taught, I tend to forget and backslide.
I have to be careful not to get too far ahead of myself in thinking about where I am headed.
Because things inside and out change all the time, this is a process of taking one step at a time!
God, that is boring.
I just wanted to zip to going viral, having it all made.
But what if I went viral and I wasn’t ready?
What if I got under a huge public eye and wanted to change and then felt all this pressure to stay the same?
What if I got there and felt just as empty as I had before? Because it didn’t really address what I wanted deep down, all along?
What if what I wanted, for instance, was to be accepted and there I went putting myself on a pedestal so it was hard for anyone to relate to me and connect the way deep down I truly wanted?
I could really see that happening.
My solution? I have to remember that this is a process.
I have to take the steps to remain connected to myself to go the right direction.
And I have to do this even though it is so easy for me to think of this as a ‘distraction’ from speeding along.
IT IS SO HARD TO REMEMBER.
Oof! How many times does the universe need to smack me in the head to help me remember not to rush and rush and rush towards a goal?
And breathe. And be patient.
But remember:
It’s possible to go viral for the wrong reason.
It’s possible to get known for something when you aren’t really ready.
When you don’t have the clarity yet–and you could push yourself to go quickly and then end up regretting not spending a little more time on things.
If success has not happened yet, maybe it is for a reason.
Maybe you could still aim towards your goal but focus on enjoying the process as much as you can.
You will clarify what you need every step of the way.
I know this might seem counter to what I said last week about ‘the push’ and how sometimes you just need to take a leap–
But that is because in some situations taking leaps, while knowing they are going to be imperfect and a little too ‘early’…
Can be good.
And the goal and intention is not to go viral.
It’s because leaping can be part of the process of realizing if you are on track or not, getting feedback from how you feel about things and dipping a toe in.
Step by step.
Take a step, then you can see if you want to keep going that way. It could be exactly what you need to do to find clarity.
I’m assuming you’ll probably change your mind after doing it because you get clear you want to do it a little differently, maybe.
And it is a part of the process.
Where are you being impatient with your process?
Where are you telling yourself you need to go faster?
Where can you insert some space to reconnect to yourself, your needs and your priorities?
Take it as your challenge this week!!
xo
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