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How it Went: My 2023 Goal to Have a Better Relationship with Myself

“…Being at home, in the core of ourselves, is the foundation that gives us the security…to be in full relationship to life.” Bud Harris

Early 2023, I nearly dropped my e-reader. “This is so where I am at right now!” I noted next to this passage above.

My word of the year for 2023 was Foundation – specifically, shoring up the real foundation to everything: my relationship with myself.

All year, I had decided, I would be unwobbling the wobbles around accepting every part of myself. I didn’t want to feel at odds with myself anymore.

It was a drastically new kind of goal for me: I’ve always been a speed demon set on tackling my business projects, writing books and articles, serving people through all that and a nonprofit, plus a million other things.

But losing my father took my mind off all that, and my 2023 goal felt less tangible and obvious; the kind of thing that falls in the cracks. An Honorable Mention type of goal, not really worthy of a gold prize.

Basically not worth the time and energy to focus on if I had anything more important and urgent to do. But that is why it had to be the top priority of all.

My biggest task is to meet myself where I am, moment to moment in my life, especially when life gets busy.

If I have any goal that consider to be more important, as soon as I feel that urgency, this relationship with myself will play second fiddle…heck, it’s the triangle in the back.

In order to really take things up a notch, I had to to say, “Forget the other goals, if all I do is end the year more self loving than I began, then I will consider it a success.” 

So how did it go?

​Read on in this free January edition of On Purpose Women Magazine!

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