A friend was asking me about my goal to have a better relationship with myself in 2023 and in 2024, and
I realized there’s a general misconception about this sort of thing.
The misconception is that me wanting a better relationship with myself,
including accepting myself in all ways,
meant that I did not accept myself in some way.
Not necessarily.
In fact, that’s not really true at this point of my life.
But I sometimes feel an intangible sandpaper feeling.
It’s inside. I won’t know why.
I have to sit down and be with it.
Everyone can be MORE accepting…
but there is more to it.
Finally, I was able to articulate this truth:
The relationship you have with yourself isn’t really about you.
-Feel anxious about life in general, you will feel anxious about yourself.
-Feel out of control, you will try to control yourself.
-Feed sad, you may feel sad about yourself.
Or at least, this is true for me!
This is the #1 lesson I’ve learned by making my relationship to myself a priority over 2023:
It’s symbolic and not always about me.
So turning it back to you, it’s the same:
your relationship with yourself is symbolic and not always about you.
Wanting to accept yourself more doesn’t mean that you need to reject something specific about yourself
in order to benefit from that sort of focus.
It’s so much more complex than that.
And I’ve also learned that you can reverse this principle:
You can improve your relationship with yourself as the ground zero to feel better about everything else going on in your life.
“…Being at home, in the core of ourselves, is the foundation that gives us the security…to be in full relationship to life.” Bud Harris
Get me?
Today, as you go about your day, check in with yourself, and ask:
How am I feeling?
How do I feel about things generally?
Maybe journal about how you feel about things in general and notice if that affects how you feel about yourself.
It’s an interesting thing to notice, for sure!!
Your feelings do matter and it is worth it to spend time with them.
But don’t BELIEVE that a temporary feeling means you don’t like yourself.
Taking those feelings and what they say about you less seriously will be such a gift, I promise.
That said you can always be more accepting, and compassionate with yourself, too.
Self love is not an Off-or-on switch. It’s complicated.
And if this intrigues you, be sure to check out my upcoming Be Your Best Friend Workshop!
Do you ever feel:
-Like you are on a never-ending treadmill of personal development?
-Like you don’t have a nonjudgemental person to talk to consistently?
-Like you can’t be fully honest, or fully understood, 365 days a year and 24/7–
Because when you try to share your whole self, you sometimes feel hurt, wrong, or dismissed?
It’s great to have goals and want to grow,
but if you (or others) are always making you wrong,
then you can’t move a muscle!
Without self love and acceptance, it’s harder to do everything.
Loneliness and isolation are super common these days, but you still have one perfect best friend at the ready:
Yourself.
Give yourself a safe space to land.
Be your own best friend–the kind that knows when to push, and when to love.
What if you could have a conversation with someone where you could share everything you’re thinking and feeling, and they’re totally holding space for ALL of you?
You can! And she is with you every second of every day, for the rest of your life.
BE Your Own Best Friend!
Learn Writing and Somatic Techniques over two sessions.
Benefits of this two part workshop:
🤍 Time to celebrate yourself
🤍 Feel more wholeness
🤍 Grow from a solid and steady foundation
🤍 Tap into your future self to get guidance on your goals and desires
🤍 Feel more understood, heard, and seen without judgement
🤍 Meet yourself where you are and feel more connected
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