I know everyone wants to live according to affirmations, but life is a both/and process. Life is about living and being well even if it’s shit and you don’t feel well. You can be okay with the fact that you are not okay.
The affirmation police have corrected me many times.
I used to write affirmations and post them daily.
At a certain point, I realized as a writer that this format was incredibly limiting if that was the only sentence I was allowed to compose for years and years.
Since then I often post things with the word ‘no’ or ‘not’ in them.
That’s when the affirmation police have instructed me that it is better for manifesting to keep it positive.
I know ya’ll are 100% coming from a good place, but it’s not like I haven’t heard of manifesting before.
I spent $10k and year out of my life getting a coaching certificate in Abraham Hicks.
I was sure it would mean my life was instantly going to be amazing.
Yes, it was cute. No, it did not instantly solve *any* of my problems, especially the money piece.
IT WAS NOT EVERYTHING.
The problem with the mainstream philosophy around manifesting today is that some people have become so beaten over the head with it that it immediately triggers a lack of creativity,
a need to be right versus wrong and a not-enoughness.
It says, “you are doing this wrong, be more positive, if you don’t have something it’s because you are to blame.”
That sounds like emotional abuse to me.
The truth is that we as individuals are not fully in control of everything on this entire planet. Expecting anyone to be all-powerful is too much! Stop putting it all on yourself.
We do have some control though, I’ll say that. We are not powerless. We can create all kinds of wonderful and beautiful things.
But here’s the sticking point here: you aren’t going to feel powerful if you try to control something that you can’t. I’ve written the book on this, literally.
You also are not going to feel powerful if you deny yourself the freedom to be your wild, chaotic, untangled being.
To accept everything you feel and think without judgement, without constant correction to be positive, without endless rules with zero exceptions to come back to the positive.
I am trying to empower you to see the difference between toxic positivity and empowered creativity.
Life is BOTH AND.
Know what your NOs are, as well as your YESes.
The truth is there are a lot of spiritual people out there without a good sense of what their deal breakers are so they end up with toxic relationships, toxic clients, etc.
You can decide to say no for whatever reason—come on, let’s be the change and respect that. Nos are seriously under-loved.
Stop thinking there is only one way to dream—in the positive.
Embrace BOTH AND
And beyond YES and No there is a whole rainbow of possibility.
THAT’S WHAT CREATING IS ABOUT.
It’s about pulling from the vast rainbow and deciding what colors you want to paint with. There are multiple choices, and it is not about the right answers.
How can you be creative if there are two choices to life—scarcity and abundance—and only one of them is right?
You can’t. There has to be more to life than that. There have to be other options.
Yes, there is enormous value on being clear on what you want and focusing on that and moving towards that—but if you don’t have a clear empowered NO, then you will be derailed a gazillion times on things that are out of alignment with what you are reaching for.
Trust me, you will do it, because you are so focused on being chill and positive.
BALANCE IT OUT.
Think about it.
And be like a skittle, be the rainbow. All of it
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