Any society that shames EMOTIONS as a lack of self control will serve to solidify the control of the powerful and privileged.
It’s a TRAP.
It is a form of controlling the masses to accept the situations that make them feel oppressed and blame themselves rather than those in power.
Because–everyone has emotions and should have emotions.
But those in power have fewer people to hold them accountable or punish them for showing it, even when it harms other people. It’s easier to stay calm when you live a privileged life, but even if you are an emotional mess, there is less oversight keeping you in line like everyone else.
And people in less advantaged positions feel more strong negative emotions because they are being oppressed! And they get to feel the consequences of behaviors spurred by emotions of the privileged, and the powerlessness, sadness, or anger around not being able to do anything about it. If they try to say the other person lacked emotional control, it will just be thrown back into their face for being even more emotional. They are emotional because they have been victimized, wouldn’t anyone feel that?
The only way to escape this paradigm is to FORGIVE YOURSELF for having emotions and stop trying to control them. CHANNEL them.
Step one: Write. Make art.
Step two: Meditate
Step three: Tell someone SAFE who will not put this oppressive point of view on you that there is anything wrong with your emotions.
Step four: Repeat or take conscious guided actions to change your life like getting away from toxic people, having boundaries, making amends, or seeking legal counsel.
