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Be Rejection Proof

Are you ever scared of rejection? I am!! All the time! And yet I don’t let it stop me.

Recently I watched a Youtube video from “How to ADHD” on ADHD and rejection sensitivity. (It’s here)

I work with a lot of people who have ADHD and besides that I have a lot of friends in this boat, too. I refuse to stand by and allow other people to feel discouraged about something that is totally normal and to have any doubt that they are capable.

If you have a desire to write or create, fear of rejection can seriously get in the way. Here are some examples of how:

  • It can cause you to not work on the book you’ve been meaning to write.

A lot of people don’t even realize that they are blocked by a fear of writing the wrong thing and being rejected, or not writing well enough. But it’s super common! I struggled with that for sure and my clients have, too. You can get over this.

  • It can cause you to have stops and starts on your business.

Not all people are not all a fit for what you offer right now and that can feel really awkward. I for one am so sensitive that little things can let me know someone is not a fit, which can be very discouraging. I know I’m not alone, so for you: Keep going.

Do I have ADHD?

That said, I wonder if I have ADHD myself this rejection sensitivity (one possible symptom) is something I have struggled with my whole life!

Fear of rejection is something I have only recently been aware of as a pattern of mine.

I can see how it has made life difficult and my goals more difficult as well—perhaps that is why it has been so key for me to receive support all along the way to publish my book and run my business.

AND YET:

-I have heard ‘no’ a lot of times in my business over the last 9 years, and I’m proud to say I’m still here!

-Despite the fear of rejection, I’m also the proud author of my book Freedom Year, magazine articles, and chapters in multiple books.

-And I recorded a single of my original song New Dawn after years of stage fright that would take my voice away.

I’m still pursuing my dreams despite being sensitive to rejection—

If you need more support, definitely reach out, I’d be happy to help you find ways to make progress being your full mermaid self through your book, business or artform. Click here to contact me.

But here’s some more things that helped me be REJECTION PROOF:

*Journaling or recording myself out loud—Connecting to my thoughts and feelings helps me put myself at the center of my life, not prioritizing other people’s reactions over myself.

*Having a driving passion— When I’m reconnecting to myself, eventually I remember my passion to keep creating and serving. It feels so good to connect to people, which means putting myself out there.

*Knowing that although something feels like rejection, it doesn’t mean it really is—Included in that video on youtube was this tip. It’s easy to take things as a personal rejection, but often you can perceive it another way entirely.

Contact me for support if you are committed to overcoming any fears in the way of your desire to write or create for your book, business or other project. You got this!

I’m putting on 2 livestreams this week to combat fear of rejection.

9 AM CST

Monday: Overcome fears to share your stuff more as a writer or creator

Wednesday: Overcome fears to sell your stuff as a creator or entrepreneur

Hope to see you there (my personal page on facebook)


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Aging with purpose at 34…

Got an exciting invitation this week to be on a live interview today!

Do you want to Age With Purpose, no matter the age you are now?

Then tune in as Ginny Robertson talks with 4 women, all born in a different decade, about Aging With Purpose, including me!

Happening on Thursday, February 3rd, 2:00pm Eastern / 11am pacific, on the Real Women. Real Purpose. Talk Show.

Join us LIVE on the On Purpose Woman Magazine & Global Community Facebook page or watch the replay there as well.

https://www.facebook.com/OnPurposeWomanMagazine

Hope to see you there!

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Questions to ponder…

Last week I began pondering some questions that brought some new ideas.

Have you ever thought about your zone of genius?

I’m rereading the book, “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks, which is a really awesome book.

He talks about the zone of genius, which is the place where you can truly come alive and use your gifts to the max–

and it isn’t just something you are good or competent at.

It isn’t even something that you are excellent at.

We are talking GENIUS level stuff here. It is like your superpower.

I’ve always been fascinated with helping people to tap into their genius to write and create for books, businesses and more.

It’s part of what I call tapping into the power of your inner mermaid.

But these questions have me pondering it all in a new way.

I promised to send these questions to help you identify your zone of genius during the live event I hosted last week.

(The event was great BTW! If you missed it, no worries we will have another free workshop next month.

It’ll be on the topic of “What to do when other people stress you out.

My workshop collaborator uses dance therapy techniques to help you know how to deal with them!)

Back to the Zone of Genius questions

You can ponder them or write them out.

Check out the book “The Big Leap” by Gay Hendricks if you want to go deeper. (That’s where these are from)

Questions:

1. I’m at my best when I’m….

2. When I’m at my best, the exact thing I’m doing is….

3. When I’m doing that, the thing I love most about it is…..

The author says sometimes this is a state of being that you get into when you are doing things in your zone of genius.

When I pondered this I started realizing I love the discovery of new things.

DISCOVERY

I love discovering the next steps for a project WITH my clients, and helping them to have realizations–or we come up with things together on a call.

It’s one of the reasons I’m drawn to the creative, unique client work that doesn’t have a “one-size-fit-all-solution.” If it did, there would be nothing to discover!

And I love what happens when I start pulling the thread and following my intuition, my fascination, and seeing where I end up.

Hope you enjoy these little questions to help you connect to your super powers.

And if you missed last week’s free hangout/ workshop, don’t worry there will be another free event next month on “What to do when other people stress you out”.

My workshop collaborator uses dance therapy techniques to help you know how to deal with people! Stay tuned for the details.

Make sure to sign up for my email newsletter to get all news of recent events!

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Brimming with ideas + creative flow

(Me and my fiance Andrew in Japan a year ago!)

The other day this phrase came to me, “Brimming with ideas,”

when it feels so easy

and all the ideas are coming out of your ears.

You make faster progress on everything.

I’m doing a FREE workshop on Friday if you want to feel more FLOW and know what to do next to make progress!

(Scroll down for all the info on that)

I want to help you get into the flow–

which to me includes the feeling of being brimming with ideas

but there is also a peace and calm

of knowing what things to do & in what order–

a Step. Step. Step.

Each step going in place in a SUSTAINABLE Flow.

Emphasis on SUSTAINABLE.

Also on “One Step at a Time.”

Over the years I’ve worked with a lot of sensitive writers, healers, creators–and just overall cool people!

And I think a lot of us get easily overwhelmed…

As I type, I’m suddenly getting this mental picture…

Imagine me typing this while under a rock.

LOL That has been me for months!

(Since my dad was sick and my personal life was put upside down by his passing.)

Well, I am starting to get out from under the rock bit by bit!

it has just shown a bigger spotlight for me on the things that are always important:

not doing too much

slowing down to listen to how I am

being kind to myself

using patient, gentle strategies to make the most out of my life without burning out.

And here is a big part of getting into the flow for me….

I keep asking myself, “How are you doing?”

In order to get into a flow, it helps to ask myself this question several times a day.

In fact I have a timer that asks me this every few hours.

And now I want to ask you!

I’d love to hear, “How you are doing?”

For real

This Friday January 21st at 11 am Eastern,

I’m hosting a free party & workshop online to see how you are doing!

The goal:

-hangout and party so we can connect

-find out how you are (especially if you feel all over the place like me lately!)

-do some exercises and writing together so you can seque into your next chapter with some idea about what you are creating next!

And please–

Whether you are creating a book, business or other thing, do not forget you also have a life to create.

Everything you are doing matters even when you are not “doing” much.

It is enough.

You are enough.

I know a lot of people are tired or ill right now.

Just remember:

Every day we have a chance to change our experiences and create a new way.

I’ve seen it in the rapid transformation my dad took in his final years on this planet–

making new choices that gave him great happiness.

So grateful he did that, for himself.

It is not a given to be happy or not–he had to choose it and help himself.

I’ve never been more passionate about helping others not to waste time-

-to do what their soul is calling out for them to do, whether it is

  • ordering food for delivery to their house, or
  • writing a book, or
  • growing a business.

Because life is precious. You do you.

Just don’t be a workhorse that hates your life, okay?

(because what is the point of that?)

So in sum we often have a couple options for how we want to create our experience.

Find an individual path that resonates with you on the highest level–

and for that I always say, your inner mermaid is the source for that wisdom of which path to take and what to do next.

That’s why I like to lead workshops and classes to help you to know what to do next because you can hear your intuition and trust it. <3

AND If you can’t make the event on Friday

don’t worry there will be more great workshops coming up this year.

I’m aiming to do a monthly workshop and will announce February’s soon!

Make sure you are signed up for my email list to get access to this and more free events:

And if you are already signed up–check your email for all the information about how to join the party on Friday

You can also get news about all events by signing up for the Quickguide to Becoming a Creative Powerhouse in your book or business, or other project.

Get your free ebook and event invitations below!

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What does it mean to be psychic?

“What does it mean to be psychic?”

I want to share this live video I did last week in case you missed it!

I talk about tapping into the information you cannot find in a book, that can help you to make difficult decisions in your life, business, book, and so on.

I feel like in life we have a couple of options for how we want to create our experience:

Which do you choose?

Me? I’m gonna have some fun…

I’m still considering this a winter hibernation period, but the snow is melting just a little bit and I’m beginning to think about what the next season of my life will bring.

How are you doing? Feel free to hit reply and let me know what you are cooking up this next season.

And remember:

doing = being

You don’t have to be focused on producing something like a book, or business to have a good season ahead of you!

You get to pick the focus that is most important to you in your life.

Your inner wisdom–that I like to call your inner mermaid!–will help you select the right orientation for YOU.

We are still doing an easy-breezy habit challenge in my free facebook group today and all of next week!

It is not too late to join us 😀

I’ve been studying and doing exercises from different courses I own including my own Psychic Mermaid Creatrix homestudy program. 🙂

My creative juices are flowing, my anxiety is decreasing and I’m making progress on my business and book projects.

Is there a habit that could help you?

You can still be a part of the free challenge!

The plan is to go to the group to check in today, break over the weekend and connect Monday-Friday next week.

Come join us now so you are ready to build a strong habit together starting right now!

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Getting Popular…

Spreading eye-opening or nourishing messages is a passion.

It makes the world a better place.

And how cool is it to reach thousands of people with it?!

Recently one of my videos from 2014 has become very popular.

It’s about “The Breakdown before the Breakthrough.”

It’s trending right now and has recently gotten over 2,000 views and 120 thumbs up on youtube.

Check it out if you like, it’s only 4 minutes!

This video is OLD but still true.

My business focus has changed a lot over the years, and so have I. What a wild ride.

Around the time of this video, one client ten years ago paid for a 20 minute sound healing with bitcoin–

it wasn’t worth much then, but he said it would one day…

and this year I ended up making $4000 from selling some of the bitcoin from that sale!

Since I started my business around 2012, I’ve sold so many services.

I’ve sold Tarot readings, journal prompts, healing sessions, ghostwriting, massage and marketing support.

I’ve coached and helped people through many different problems, like how to:

market their business,

stay on track with their goals as a sensitive person,

and make progress on their books and businesses.

In the end, I sure have learned a lot and YES I am always changing.

So speaking of changes:

In the next month or so, I’ll be opening up spots to help entrepreneurs, coaches, healers and creators.

I’ll help them share their products or services so people understand what they do and are excited to sign up and buy.

It’s called “Your Mermaid Treasure VIP”

If you want to sell more of your service or product this year, it could be for you!

It’s a new twist on an old done-with-you copywriting service I used to offer to my clients for $10,000 marketing launches, except this will be much more accessible.

But here’s the change–

I was going to open it up this month, but I’m feeling some of this ‘breakdown before the breakthrough’ energy.

Maybe it is going around?

So, you are welcome to hit reply and email me anytime to be the first to find out more (spots will be limited)…

just know I’m also currently moving at turtle speed!

I’m going to let myself step a little slower and prepare to launch it officially in February.

Stay tuned for more.

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Happy New Year Practice…

Since 2015, I’ve done a yearly practice for New Years.

Ahead of time, I write myself a letter.

I imagine where I think my life will be, and tell myself all the things I need to hear, to remember, to value.

Then I use Boomerang for Gmail to email it to myself around New Years Day.

There’s always something deeply touching about it, and of course I’m always surprised by something relevant that I wrote.

I’ve just received a note from myself today.

Because this was such a crazy year, I only just wrote the email a few months ago, but I’d forgotten what it said, like usual.

And yet so relevant.

I hope you try a practice like this for yourself, but perhaps these words will speak to you, too.


“Dear Sofia,


The past few years have been challenging ones for sure, but I don’t think you knew just how challenging this one would be. You have lost someone really truly important to you but I hope you know that he is not completely gone.


You have so many people who love you, so many who support you. Sometimes that support looks any number of ways. You have to think outside of the box.


But most importantly you have to put yourself first. You have gone fast at times, wanting to speed ahead as you have done before but the lessons you have learned now is that this is not the answer.


Speed and doing are distractions that take you away from what is really important. There is more than one way to get ahead, and ahead of what? What really matters to you now is a soul connection. You sacrifice looking “right” and having other people validate you in order to do the things that will truly be nourishing to your soul


I’m sorry that life has been so absent of nourishing figures in your family at times. It is not fair that there is so much that you have lacked. But I know that you know that hanging on is not going to help you. You know when to emotionally express and be supported and be with the feelings, and when to take control of life and let go of the pain in your body.


You are a genius and you know that is true no matter what. I’m glad you are releasing perfectionism, I’m glad you are letting go of feeling defeated for long, I’m glad you are honoring yourself first consistently and defying the sense of should and rules as you do.


I’m proud of you. and I know it isn’t your job to make anyone proud, because you are enough as you are.


I’m always here to support you. I always am holding you. I always am loving you.


–Sofia”

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Do you have journals or notes to read?

At the end of the year, I like to get a feeling of closure.

I like to review my old journals and notes.

There are so many great things I write down, it feels unfinished if I don’t mine those old notes for gold.

Do you have journals and notes to reread?

Do you want to read journals and notes with me?

Join me for a free private Reconnection workshop event on zoom.

You can reconnect to yourself through your old journals and notes!

Review writing from 2021 so you can make 2022 even better

Let your intuition guide you to easily figure out what you need to do next.

Thursday December 30th at 2 PM EST

Click here to join: https://sofia-wren.ck.page/20421f4ddd

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What is your Mermaid Treasure?

What is your Mermaid Treasure?

You’ll have to wait until next month to find out!

I’m developing a new offering to help business owners and coaches connect to their high paying clients in the right way, at the right time.

If you suspect people don’t know what you do, or they don’t know how valuable your offers really are—then this can help.

People have to understand the true value of what you do in order to buy from you—they need to see that you’ve got the sparkling Mermaid Treasure they just can’t wait to get their hands on!

The thing that can solve problems or give them what they really want.

Get clear on what you can REALLY offer people. What is your Mermaid Treasure?

We can put our creative minds together in the New Year so you can broadcast about your gifts.

Find buyers online and in the world by enhancing your brand with the most excellent communication.

It’s time to express what you are best at in an alluring way that draws people to your sparkles.

Can’t wait to tell you more soon

And if you just can’t wait until January, contact me now!

You can ask about pre-enrollment in the upcoming Mermaid Treasure VIP Program.

(I just might take a wee bit to respond because I plan to focus a lot more on my life for a few weeks.

yay hibernation!)

Xoxo

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