🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

This month my husband returned to work after paternity leave so we’ve been making a lot of adjustments.

Some days are harder than others.

Being a mom, I’m holding a lot of balls in the air, and while I certainly have my brains at work daily, I just don’t feel like I have a lot of writing ideas top of mind day to day the way I used to.

It’s strange because for the past 25-ish years that I’ve been publishing my writing online, I’ve rarely been low on ideas.

In fact my bigger problem was which idea to start with, or how to not overwhelm other people with the sheer force and complexity of all I had to say.

Thankfully coming up with an idea, and iterating off an old idea are totally different things.

And I did something very, very smart in the past that prepares me with more ideas than I could use in a decade.

I did not do this

Now let me just say what I didn’t do as I prepared to take a long break from my business

–I thought about doing this but I didn’t–

When I knew I would be going on maternity leave as a business owner, I didn’t write six weeks of emails or three months of emails to send you and get that all ready ahead of time. I’ve seen a lot of people do that for a maternity leave.

I didn’t do that.

Why not? I was busy. I was low energy.

I had other things to do to get ready for a baby.

Also my other business’s website exploded just before I gave birth and solving that problem basically sapped any professional energy I had remaining.

Mostly I just didn’t feel like it.

I don’t really believe in subjecting other people to content that I’m not excited about sharing. I feel like if I am not excited about writing something and am just clocking it in, how can I expect other people to get their interest up to read it when I can’t get interested in writing it?

Sidenote–That’s why I’m not super crazy about people using ai writing generation just to fill their content calendars with stuff.

You can use technology to help you but you still need good ideas to start with.

When I see a lot of stuff in my inbox, I just think, “Please just let me know when you have something interesting, original or exciting to say. Don’t just waste my time with ai slop just to say you checked the box of shooting out an email.” Ya know?

What I did instead

The thing that has set me up with years of ideas as a new mom isn’t something I hear people talking about.

I started this before I even got pregnant. And I didn’t do it with pregnancy or childbirth or childrearing in mind at all.

I started to organize my ideas.

I started to keep track of them for the long term.

I made a system and I filled it with ideas gradually, and that system remains one of the best resources that I have.

It was an investment of time and energy that has duplicated itself many times over.

Freezing Your Ideas to Eat Later

It’s like how recently I have gotten really into Souper Cubes, which is a way to freeze food in individual portions.

I’m all about creating a freezer stockpile right now. Home cooked food is basically essential to my survival because I have a lot of food allergies, so imagine the struggle of fitting in 2x daily cooking with a newborn baby. HARD.

What is easier? Making a huge batch every time I cook and then freezing what we can’t immediately eat. So then later, when there is no time, I can just defrost it really quick for a nearly instant meal.

Goodbye Churn and Burn Content

Organizing your ideas is sort of like that as well. It’s freezing an idea for later,

but here is one big difference:

Unlike eating the frozen soup you made a month ago, when you use an idea for content or writing you don’t really diminish your stockpile. You only ADD to it.

You may think–no way, Sofia, if I use an idea it is gone and then I need to come up with more…

We live in a churn and burn society where everyone feels like they have to write new material for their marketing or social media every day. Use it, share it, and then it’s gone and you need to think of something new. You start over daily.

I did this for ten years on social media. And I’m over it.

I said goodbye to that mentality over a year ago.

Now I would rather spend the time writing (just like my cooking) on something substantial.

I want to cook up a BIG meal with a lot of servings: a meaty article, or a juicy idea, that I can reshare, repost, edit with a twist and use again and again for years.

Good ideas are ones you can reuse repeatedly.

And since I reduced my emphasis on social media content, and began organizing and connecting my ideas, and spinning them into more meaningful writing…

I have been much more fulfilled with the things I have written and it’s possible to dine out on them (so to speak) many times over again.

When you repeat your content or ideas or writing, you may thing people are sick of it but most of the time they never saw it the first time or don’t remember, or appreciate a reminder. So it’s fine.

AND when you share something again, you can edit it with new insight, fix it up a little.

Then it becomes better and better.

The thing about art is that it is iterative, and doesn’t have to be done except when you say it is done.

You can probably keep improving it each time you revisit it in the future.

In SUM

My baby is playing with my babysitter right now. He hasn’t been napping super well today. I could be called away at any moment.

I don’t have time to waste anymore.

So I’m thankful that I spent the time I had before the baby ENJOYING the process of walking through the garden of my ideas,

organizing my journal entries,

categorizing old ideas and filing them away,

creating a digital organization system

so I could use the writing and ideas I already have for years on end.

It saves me so much time now, it makes me so much more genius even on my worst day.

And I don’t have to worry about “mombrain” making me forget all of my ideas.

They are written down and I know how to find them.

Cool, huh?

I recommend it to everyone. Freeze your ideas for later. Put them into a digital organization system (or an analog system if you prefer that).

And if you are scratching your head unsure HOW to do that exactly, well, then I have something for you.

Ready to freeze your ideas?

Do you want to learn how to organize your ideas?

I have a digital organization system I created to hold all my ideas for writing and business.

Previously I have taught my method and recorded all the materials, which you can access for a very low price.

Click here if you want to get off the daily creation hamsterwheel and fill your freezer with years of ideas that will stand the test of time.

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I have been asked if I am coaching clients right now.

Yes – and if you are interested in getting coached to write, see this page about my 2 month coaching program.

I help with nonfiction books, blogs, sales pages, marketing emails, writing for your soul, and more.

There’s also a lot of information on my page about coaching for 6 months, and how I can help with both personal and business writing goals–but I often recommend starting with a smaller commitment like 2 months.

If you are interested in getting coached on your writing or marketing copy, contact me about your goals, and we can talk more!

I have limited spots available and a few people have been asking, so don’t wait tooooo long if it is speaking to you.

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

This week an old post I wrote on facebook started circulating again. It got a lot of comments. It was me announcing that I needed space from Instagram and facebook.

It’s funny because I wrote it a year ago, and have been enjoying how not-on-my-radar posting on Facebook feels. I love the mental space.

But some people just noticed it and responded to it like it was new that I wasn’t on there as much. Someone said they wanted to hear updates about what I was up to.

That inspired me to write this! As an email not a Facebook post.

These days as a mom, email is so much more efficient because I won’t get sidetracked by something I see on the feed.

I do scroll Facebook a little (and regret it half the time), because I got bored breastfeeding or because something I need is on there.

It’s so easy to get distracted and forget the point of why I was on Facebook, though, and it makes me not feel as present with my son after I get off of it, so I don’t like doing it much.

Anyway I wanted to address that question, “What am I up to?”

I’m a mom of a 9 and a half week baby. He recently went through a growth spurt. He’s only been napping during the day on top of me or my husband’s body.

I don’t know if the baby has changed his mind about that yet. I figure when my husband’s paternity leave ends in a week, I’ll try to put him in the crib for day naps more, but we can stick to the contact naps for now since we have two people trading off.

I like to spend my contact nap shift watching TV, which is one of my few bits of leisure. Bridgerton’s new season is good. The Last Thing He Told Me on Apple TV with Jennifer Gardner was compelling.

I like to spend my husband’s nap shift doing chores like dishes, laundry, or essentials like feeding us all, taking medicinal epsom salt baths, using the toilet, doing PT exercises, or working on my business taxes.

Sometimes I don’t have a lot of time. A thing I do to multitask is to eat my food in the tub. I know it sounds really unhygienic, but I just hold a bowl or plate above the water while I soak my legs, and it’s a great timesaver for a new mom.

You never know when the baby will wake up to cut a warm meal or a warm bath short. The baths are to melt my aches, not primarily about becoming more zen, but they can help with that as well.

I like to watch my husband and my baby together. The baby laughed for the first time this past week, at my husband, of course. The pair is very cute. And the baby is cute alone, when he’s just with me, asleep or playing.

We both constantly talk to the baby, which is what you are supposed to do to make them smarter, but it’s also just how we amuse ourselves. We also make up songs.

The baby may need me to stop writing soon. My bowl of soup sits forgotten as I write this…I should eat some…

I try to write when I can. I like writing emails this way, like letters to a friend. And it’s nice to be able to send this quickly to my friends without a bunch of other crap getting in the way like Facebook.

I started journaling on paper again lately, for the first time since the end of 2025 when I gave birth. It’s starting to feel easier.

It’s starting to get easier to think in general, because the baby is sleeping better at night. Not all night, he still needs to eat in the middle of the night several times…but his sleep is better and longer. I go to sleep when he does, around 7, 8, 9, 10 pm or whenever he decides.

Sleep deprivation is no joke.

Anyway, I’m writing less than I did before even though I’m not writing zero. But I am okay with it.

It helps to know everything is a season. There will be things I don’t do for a while or don’t do the same way. I don’t need to force it.

On my post about Facebook, a lot of people tried to help by suggesting ways to solve the problem of how to post there more…but I’m not interested in solving that problem right now.

Sometimes the answer isn’t to figure out how to do a hard thing. Sometimes it is fine to just wait until it gets easier on its own, or to just let it go for now.

I feel like our society is all about overcoming challenges. Finding a way, no matter what. It’s like a game or a pride thing, maybe. Or someone else did it, so you can, too.

Sometimes I don’t choose to overcome the challenge. There are so many possible challenges I could tackle, I choose to let some things stay unconquered.

I’m managing my energy. And there’s nothing wrong with people being different, some people will choose to solve X problem, while I might choose to really not care to think on it further.

Right now, I just see my baby’s beautiful face in my mind. He’s so much work and so worth it. I tackle challenges daily while taking care of him.

How to juggle him in my arms and also do XYZ.

How to take care of his needs and respond to his cries.

How to lay trapped under his napping for as long as possible without killing my neck, arm or back.

Speaking beyond Facebook posts, I am writing less right now than I have in decades, and I am okay with it.

There’s so much I am not doing right now, (because I barely have time to use the toilet or eat)

…and for the most part I don’t mind.

The things I care about, I am doing or I know I’ll figure a way out to do. Or circumstances will eventually change to allow that.

But being on Facebook more isn’t high priority at all.

Last Thoughts

My final thought before I lose the opportunity to finish this email is —

You are the one who decides how you should spend your time and what problems to care to solve right now.

Even if everyone else is doing it. Even if you used to do it, too.

You can change your mind.

You can be different from others, and

it isn’t a slight on other people’s opinions;

it is just purely authenticity. Living your own life.

It isn’t a failure, it’s a success at following your real priorities.

I know someone needs to hear this.

I’ve known many people to change goals around their writing and feel shame about it.

I’ve spoken about ungoaling before and how important it can be. It means removing a goal and undoing it in your mind, which can be a process.

Many people feel like they can’t give themselves permission to change their mind or behavior if it means they won’t reach one of their writing goals.

(These are goals which they set in the past, before a revelation or a change, and never would have committed to had they known the wind was about to change).

It’s especially hard to let go of old goals when telling people about it feels like “failing” in public.

But you can’t let your past self or other people dictate your entire future.

I’m glad I’ve gotten to a point in my life where I care less about changing my mind, changing in general, or appearing to fail at something that I no longer even care about.

I’ve lost people to cancer, I’ve gotten older, gotten perspective, and I just don’t care as much anymore about the little things.

Life is TOO short to spend energy on things that aren’t a high priority. And only you know what those are.

Pursue the new thing. Ditch the old.

I’ll be the person in the room who says consistency and follow-through with writing goals is great, but so is pitching sh-t out the window when it no longer serves.

Rip it off like a Band-Aid, if you have to, or taper off; whatever feels right. But stop going the same way if things have gotten stale.

Hope that helps whoever needed to hear it.

Let me know if this speaks to you by shooting me a quick reply!!!

xoxoxo

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I have been asked if I am coaching clients right now.

Yes – and if you are interested in getting coached to write, see this page about my 2 month coaching program. 

I help with nonfiction books, blogs, sales pages, marketing emails, writing for your soul, and more.

​There’s also a lot of information on my page about coaching for 6 months, and how I can help with both personal and business writing goals–but I often recommend starting with a smaller commitment like 2 months.

If you are interested in getting coached on your writing or marketing copy, shoot me an email about your goals and we can talk more!

I have limited spots available and a few people have been asking, so don’t wait tooooo long if it is speaking to you.

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

I hope you have been well — two months ago I had a baby! He is healthy and currently being held as he sleeps by his dad.

I wanted to shoot you a quick email while I can. It’s been crazy around here with a newborn, as you may imagine.

Immediately after the birth, I not only had to start learning how to take care of my little baby, but I also had to heal from rather severe wounds from birthing him. I didn’t get out of bed unless absolutely necessary for 5 weeks.

Luckily, I had a lot of help to allow my healing to happen, but man, it still was really tough. Getting help when you have a newborn baby and breastfeeding doesn’t necessarily mean feeling rested at any point. And there is always more to do.

I had to devise the simplest possible way to keep track of things. Because feeling like a bus hit me doesn’t mean I’m not still the person in my house who does most of the admin work, ordering things, making grocery lists, etc.

I wanted to share what worked for me, not only to keep track of what documents need to be filed with insurance, what groceries need to be bought, but also how to keep track of some of the memories and feelings so I can keep hold of memories.

This has basically replaced my journal and the other writing I have done for the time being.

Being a writer, I miss the luxury of being able to journal in my notebook. That just has not felt right since I had the baby. In fact, writing this email feels like a huge luxury and I may be interrupted at any point…I had to find an easier, quicker way to do things while basically only having one brain cell left awake.

It’s all about getting the job done.

So watch my 5 minute video for a little update from me where I share what has been working, including free apps I use to keep my life together as a new mom.

Also here are a couple other things I am loving

-The site CHIRP for its audiobooks, I have gotten a lot of great ones for $3 and they help while the time away holding babies or breastfeeding.

-For those midnight feedings where my brain can’t really comprehend an audiobook, I like to listen to music. I’ve listened to the album, “Wild and Clear and Blue” by I’m With Her a million times. It recently won a Grammy and it sure deserves it. If you only have time for one song, my favorite is Standing on the Faultline

I have been asked if I am taking clients or working.

The answer is yes- as long as we don’t have to meet for a live zoom call.

What does that mean?

It means there are two ways we can work together. I can:

A. edit your documents and leave notes in google docs or

B. have discussions over voicenotes which can be done in various free apps like Telegram and Voxer.

If you are interested in getting your writing edited or getting coached on your writing or marketing, shoot me an email about your project and we can discuss it!

I help with nonfiction books, blogs, sales pages, emails, and more.

New Video

Well, until the next email, take care and have fun!

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

I’m going to have a baby this week!

It will happen naturally or it will be induced because my doctors don’t want anyone of my advanced age (38, thank you very much) to go past her due date. So I’ll be holding a baby by Christmas!!

This is my last post before all hell breaks loose lol. I am officially on maternity leave for a little bit.

I’m super excited and happy to be going through this huge life change of becoming a mom with the positive community of folks I have around me, including my friends, my family, my partner and people like you who support my creative endeavors.

Thanks for reading my emails! This may be the last email I send for a little while as I get my bearings as a mom.

By the way, I love writing so much. Writing these posts isn’t really something that necessarily feels like work. It’s a creative outlet.

Thus, I might feel like posting again rather soon.

Or maybe not, I could be tired with a wee one to take care of. Not putting any pressure on myself if I want to wait months to do anything.

(Sign up here to get an email when I write next!)

Either way I hope you have a fantastic holiday season, and a happy New Year.

New Video

Here’s a video I just published where I share my thoughts about how I’m planning for the new year while pregnant even though I have no idea what life will look like with a baby.

I share my process of planning on paper and also using free digital tools.

I also share reflections on this very special moment in my life,

how my goals the past year have gone while pregnant,

how I think about my priorities these days, and so on.

​Watch the plan with me video on Youtube

My Fav New Year Practice

There’s a practice I do every New Years.

I write a letter to myself ahead of time, and then read it on Jan 1st.

This is always so fun.

Even if you wrote yourself a letter today, I bet you would forget what you said and be delighted when you read it again in 2026.

​I wrote an article describing my favorite practice more in detail, which you can read here.

​This article is free for you to read on Medium through my link above.

By the way, I have really been enjoying reading articles on Medium lately, it is a nice way to be entertained without feeling stressed from doom scrolling on social media.

Trying to reeeeelax right now.

Well, until the next email, take care and have fun!

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

I’m now about 37 weeks pregnant. I’m doing pretty well considering just how pregnant that really is.

The week of Thanksgiving was a doozy:

the website for my second business was updated (good) which caused some massive problems as a ripple effect (bad).

It’s been a really big hassle, with a lot of fixing problems for customers, and stress for me.

Since then my little teacup of total energy and total effs I can give about anything has been sincerely drained,

so a lot of things that were on my wishlist of things to do before the baby comes probably can’t happen now, unforrtunately. Grr

I’m half on maternity leave already, and I’m trying to only doing what I feel like doing because I don’t want to push myself too hard.

FYI: I may suddenly disappear for weeks or months at a time from here on out, only to reappear when the passion to share something with you strikes.

This isn’t the “perfect” or ideal way to seque into a maternity leave as a writer and business owner, but at this point, we are throwing all that out of the window and just embracing the lovely concept of ENOUGH.

So speaking of things that inspire me, let’s dig into the real reason I am writing today 😀

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What I want to tell you

​Recently an entrepreneur named Liz Goddard has opened the doors into a free behind the scenes look into her business by reflecting on the past year 2025 and the things that worked and didn’t work. (Here is a link)​

It’s a real and raw look behind the scenes from a seasoned entrepreneur who has done really well for herself and generally does things in a very unique way.

She’s vocally wacky, quirky, unique and strongly guided in her business by the voice of intuition that visits her in the shower. And it’s generally been going very well for her, she’s made 7 figures that way (without doing anything shady).

But in reflecting on this year, she describes a dark season when she found herself tossing out all of her previously successful courses and work to flail around with no idea how to make money anymore in today’s economy and landscape.

I’m not done listening to her full reflection, but I’ve just heard the part mid-year where she realizes that

her overreliance on ai and chat-gpt (to generate ideas, write marketing copy and choose business strategies) is what ultimately led her astray and into the darkness.

It contributed to a feeling of burnout and being lost as to what to do, a feeling that nothing was working anymore, and people weren’t buying what she had been selling for years…

In listening so much to chatgpt feedback, she had lost that strong connection to her own brilliance and intuition that had so guided her before.

She’s not totally anti-ai at this point, but she definitely recognized a need for boundaries and a return back to human written copywriting and marketing, plus relying once more on her own brain and heart to guide her business, and all the writing she does for it.

I find this super interesting because AI generated writing and using AI to guide decision making is becoming more and more common.

I’ve poked my toe into the pool enough to recognize how tempting it may be to give your power over to a machine that claims to make everything easy, an expert in just about anything that can help you do your work so much faster.

Reflecting now at the end of the year, I can’t say that using ai had many positive results for my business and maybe its advice is pretty much BS…thankfully my experiments have been fairly limited.

While it can be good for some things like doing a bunch of math or summarizing a long passage into a paragraph,

I think as time goes on, people are learning more and more that while creators of ai tools claim they are effective at doing tasks better than a person, in reality they often simply do not…

And I can’t help feel a little smug that as a human being, I have skills that many people think they can replace with a robot, but that ultimately I think humans do better.

They will always have value, and I am passionate about coaching others and teaching these things to other people.

Things like: making brilliant connections, writing from the heart, copywriting.

Working with your own unique personality, intuition, and ideas in order to drive your business or writing dreams forward.

Human connection and holding space for emotions.

Stuff like that.

The problem is that it is super easy to open a chatGPT website and respond to it in conversation,

while the things that I know work best have a bit of a learning curve, or require you to initiate the process yourself.

Even if the tools I would recommend to write more brilliantly and easily are rather simple,

you still have to go through the process without a robot telling you what to do and learn what to do so you can do it on your own.

Still I love to help people do this… More on this in a minute.

Anyway, Liz Goddard’s reflection has been an additional datapoint adding to my skepticism of ChatGPT’s ability to be a copywriting, business or marketing advisor

​–and a second datapoint I want everyone to know about is a certain youtube video, “ChatGPT made me delusional.”

​

The point of this video was to explore how far ChatGPT would go to support an individual’s delusion, i.e. what it would tell you to do if you made outrageous claims.

In the video, the creator suggests to the AI that perhaps he was an extremely smart baby at birth. Could it be possible to reconnect to that infant intelligence to prove his intellectual superiority as the smartest baby born that year? This is clearly a ridiculous idea…

Yet, he is supported by ChatGPT in this delusion

and ends up getting advice from the AI to do things like eat babyfood, buy hats, cover everything in tinfoil, and fully isolate himself from all known friends or family in a paranoid attempt to protect his “experiments” from people who don’t want him to proove he’s the smartest baby.

These are crazy things to tell someone to do.

So……..given that, can you really trust what ChatGPT tells you in general? Should it be given authority to offer you advice on something as important as your writing or your business?

I know everyone is busy and stressed these days so the temptation to outsource everything to a cheap AI assistant is appealing,

but the old saying, “If sounds too good to be true, it probably is,” does exist for a reason.

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Digging into Liz Goddard’s reflections on her year, and hearing how a successful, unique, and confident entrepreneur found herself going down an AI spiral and totally disconnecting with her sense of direction

is what lit a fire under me to put many of my classes on a flashsale this week.

(More on this below)

Like I said, I think that one of the major pulls of ChatGPT and AI is that it guides you through a process that seems easy and promises to help you make faster progress writing and achieving your goals.

I believe that the things that really work aren’t as “in your face,” but they do exist, and

they aren’t necessarily that much harder than sorting through a bunch of AI slop, you just need to know what to do.

That’s where I can come in to help.

There are other methods out there to be brilliant, to make progress on your book or business, and not in a delusional way.

​In my recent (free) Youtube video on how I cure brainrot, I list some of the EFFECTIVE tools people can use to think more brilliantly and thus enrich you careers as writer, thinker or entrepreneur. ​

Some of these things take a bit more effort, and time, and thus patience. We are all short on patience these days.

But the results are worth it.

Plus putting ideas together the old fashioned way, taking a little quiet to settle down, listen to yourself, tune out the noise and connect to something enriching and fulfilling

can offer huge benefits like grounding you so that your next step and what is right for you is obvious, and you can advance your goals confidently without being led astray.

No more feeling lost and disconnected from your own genius.

I think that this is especially important for some people, I guess you can call us “neurodiverse.” That’s how I am: There are certain ways that we function well and certain ways that we don’t function well at all.

Whether or not something may work for someone else isn’t always an indication that it will work for me.

I’m a unique individual, and I’ve realized that the best way for me to feel successful is to work WITH my brain and my unique traits rather than follow anyone else blindly.

When I go off track and become disconnected from what works for me, I become like Liz was earlier this year, lost, rudderless and totally freaked out in a spiral.

That means I have to LISTEN TO MYSELF

and maintain a very close connection to meeting myself where I am.

It’s not about being perfect.

Even if I have a few short term stumbles trying to do things my way, I’ll learn from it and long term I will make it out of the woods to where I want to be, as I learn clues about how I work best.

I think Liz Goddard is the kind of person who also needs to be true to herself in order to function well. A huge insight this year was to recognize she needed to follow her own genius and inspiration rather than try to outsource it out to chatgpt, as doing it her way was always the key to her success in the past.

By the way, all of this ties into the power of reflecting on the past and what has worked or not worked for you already, because it is so easy for us to forget or lose track of what we have always known.

(My classes on sale include exercises to do this a lot!! I could write a whole essay just about this, but let me try to stay on track.)

Writing things down in a journal or some sort of note is so helpful, as is the process of rereading it periodically.

In Sum:

If you’re at a loss how to get started hearing yourself and making that a part of your writing or work routine, I can help even though I’m headed off on maternity leave:

​Don’t forget my Youtube channel is filled with different free resources, like cowork videos to make progess on your writing or business with me guiding you.​

And let me tell you about one more resource on sale now…

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Taking it Deeper

I have a bundle of classes (currently on sale!!!) with my full digital system to reconnect to your genius, and utilize technology in a healthy way to make all of your writing easier than ever before.

Perhaps THIS is the missing link that you never knew that you were missing…

If you really want to become your most brilliant self, reflect on your year past, make connections and learn lessons from it,

I highly recommend my Digital Organization course–now 60% off.

It’s hard to describe ALL the many things you can get out of my Digital Organization Classes.

You can find your ideas more easily if you tend to lose track of where things are,

you can be more consistent on your goals,

you can build on your mental efforts more easily,

you can organize and archive years of journals or articles,

you can write articles and material based on all the hard work you have already done without constantly reinventing the wheel….

In this bundle of classes, I include everything I have learned about organizing my thoughts, my journals, my business plans so now it is super easy to find things over time and build on my efforts–

It’s a great resource to help you get clear on your ideas, and organize them so that you can use them more effectively to create for your book or business.

You’ll feel more genius with more direction and clarity on what to do next.

You won’t forget your brilliant ideas.

I have changed my life in so many ways for the better by connecting to MY own digital brain of information

rather than outsource my power to forces outside of me,

I don’t forget the ideas and lessons I have already learned and produced. I build on them.

And now you can, too:

This bundle contains 26 classes about my system, on sale for only $40.

Plus, I recorded the most recent 8 part Winter series of classes right around New Years of last year,

so there are many practical exercises perfect for this time of year to help you get clear on what to do next and be your most brilliant self in 2026.

My goal is that every class will help you feel more organized, more clarity, more confidence, more inspiration, more creativity and more brilliance.

Anyway this is my one rambly post to attempt to push you to spend more time reconnecting with yourself,

your own ideas,

your own brilliance,

your own writing,

instead of outsourcing your power to an external agent.

And if the problem is that you don’t know HOW,

sign up for the Digital Organization Class Bundle while it is on supersale!

I will show you what to do in the classes. Just turn them on and follow along.

​Normally $100, the bundle of Digital Organization Classes is 60% off​!

​Get it all for only $40 ​​until 11:00 AM EST Monday, December 15, 2025. ​

Now is the time!

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 Having trouble finding your ideas?

The flash sale on my Winter Digital Organization classes has started!

And it’s 60% off.

​Click here to read more–a full bundle of 26 Classes is only $40 until 11:00 AM EST Monday, December 15, 2025.​

I’m close to my duedate and want to put these classes on sale before I give birth and go on maternity leave!

Get organized for the new year!

This is how digital organization has helped me:

1. Finding my ideas more easily benefits my writing and business by:

• Saving time: No more taking an hour to find a document or file.
  
• Saving energy: Since it’s easy to find everything I need, I can jump into the task at hand with full energy.
  
• Writing articles, emails and blogs easily: I am never starting from scratch when I write because all my great ideas are at my fingertips!
  
• The satisfaction of synthesizing: I’m building on my ideas, and developing them into something even better. I feel like a genius.
  
• Better quality work: I’m feeling prouder of what I create, and share it with more people. I can even reuse or reference my work again over time.

2. Organization benefits my life and mental health by:

• Remembering my real priorities: I can finally break old patterns because I remember what I learn. No more forgetting. Clarity is lasting!
  
• Sense of peace: Everything is ok. I can relax. All my ideas are written down and I know I’ll find it
  
• Better boundaries: I stand my ground more because I know what’s really important to me.
  
• More confidence: I value my ideas and I take myself seriously. I feel empowered. I am learning and growing in all the right ways.​​

FINALLY A SOLUTION TO IDEA MESS AND CHAOS.

Ready to get your ideas, notes and documents organized for the New Year?

So you can actually find things and make faster progress on goals like writing for your book or business?

​Grab ALL my Digital Organization Class Recordings for only $40 before 11:00 AM EST Monday, December 15, 2025.​

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

It’s the week of black friday!

I originally thought I would put something together to offer you, like put one of my courses on sale….but with being 8 months pregnant, that just didn’t happen. And that’s okay!

Other people are offering some things I really LOVE on super sale.

The best deal I’ve seen is Teachery’s Lifetime Offer–

Only $280 to create and sell unlimited courses for LIFE

​ Use Code BF2025 at checkout​

(49% off the normal price of $550)

If you have any interest in creating courses and selling them, then this is an amazing deal.

It also works great for free gifts.

Take a Look at What You Can Do

You can do a lot of things with Teachery so here are some examples to give you ideas.

1. PAID CLASS HUBS

You can create courses and sell them with Teachery.

Want to see? You can look inside the hub I made for teaching Digital Organization last winter.

​take a tour of a paid course I created on Teachery here​ (as seen above)

2. FREE BONUSES

I have also used Teachery to create free gifts and bonuses.

Some of them I give tohen they people wsign up with their email (like the Fun Email Hub above), others I choose to share with the whole world.

This is great way to impress for: -opt-ins to get people onto your list, -freebies for joint venture gift-giveaways, -bonuses you can offer when you speak at a conference, podcast and so on.

I’ve got so many free things I created over the years that I decided to round them all up in one place:

​Take a tour of a free Bonus hub I’ve created with Teachery.

Why the LIFETIME Deal Matters

When I started looking for technology to support me creating and selling courses, many of the options charged monthly fees like $30-100/month.

For a small business, those sorts of monthly charges add up, and I didn’t want to have to carry that for the rest of my life.

(And if I stopped paying the fees, my customers who bought a course would lose access, not cool…)

So when I saw the Lifetime Teachery offer, I was excited to never have to worry about recurring payments. I could continue to build up a library of courses in one place.

My customers would always have access. And I could sell my courses over and over again without paying another dime.

There is no limit to the number of courses I can create.

I Made My Money Back

In the 5 years since I purchased teachery I have made thousands of dollars on my courses, so this has been one of my best investments.

And I paid a lot more for the price than it is selling for now.

Right now the owners are giving a great deal (and may never go so low again):

Only $280 to create and sell unlimited courses for LIFE ​ ​

(49% off the normal price of $550)

If you want to create and sell courses, don’t miss out.

• Lifetime access to Teachery for only $280 (normally $550)
• Includes unlimited courses, hubs, students, etc
• Fully customizable landing pages and upsells
• Ongoing platform updates + real human customer support
• No subscription. No future charges. All FUTURE features included for life!

​Use Code BF2025 at checkout​

And yes! That is an affiliate link, so if you use it to buy Teachery, then at no additional cost to you, I’ll make a small commission to spend on diapers and other things for my baby soon to arrive. That’s a Win-win!

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

I have a new video to share with you today,

but first a little life update:

I really needed this week to recover after the past few weeks of fundraising for charity. Can you believe we raised almost $1000 to keep 2 young women in Sierra Leone from dropping out of college?

I was all over the internet spreading the word about our fundraiser.

​It’s still going on (read more below or click here for details) ​

but for the most part, right now I’m taking a much-needed break from the hustle and bustle and funneling my efforts into some other projects I want to finish before my maternity leave.

My husband is just as motivated on his own hustles. He hopes to be working on his passions over Thanksgiving, that is, if he has a break from his full time job which has also been keeping him busy.

We are all about getting everything done we can before the baby comes, which at this point is only about a month away!

I’m feeling more and more pregnant. The baby seems to be kicking and pushing me around 50% of the time. It feels like being a pressurized tank. I’m not looking forward to giving birth, personally, but maybe I’ll be so over being pregnant by the time it rolls around that it will seem like less of a big deal.

Amidst it all, we are trying not to be too workaholic, and to find time to rest and connect as a couple during this precious window before the baby is born. It’s easier for me to rest since my energy tends to crap out pretty early on in the day. Assuming I can find a comfortable position to repose myself in…

But anyway, aside from this life update, I wanted to let you know I just put up a new video I am really excited to share with you.

New Video

“The most fun a girl can have is finding parallels, noticing patterns, making connections, contemplating”

This is a great quote to describe me and my soul as a writer and creator, I feel like.

And I want to spread the love.

Not only is making connections fun, pleasurable, satisfying, but it makes you smarter and, well, less dumb.

Lately, I have been hearing people talk about the concept of brain rot, or the stupid-ification of society.

​In fact, brainrot was the Oxford University’s word of the year in 2024, and I previously wrote about that last year. ​

But I wanted to get into it again and talk about how to CURE brainrot, because I have been hearing a lot from others on how they are trying to teach themselves things, get smarter, and resist what may be a societal fall into the abyss of mental mediocrity…

and I think a lot of people are missing the mark on exactly how they are trying to overcome brainrot.

It’s still always worth trying, and I don’t mean to be negative or put anyone down,

BUT I just know how satisfying it is to really nail it so you feel like your most brilliant self.

And I remember the years of trying to scratch the itch of reaching my own intellectual potential for so many years, and feeling like I wasn’t quite there…

it feels so good to cross that bridge, and figure a few things out by just discovering a few key components.

Perhaps what many people are doing is almost there, but if only they could add a few more data points, then they would really be taking their ideas and their brilliance to the next level.

It is so worth it:

When you are truly brilliant, not only do you overcome the trend of brainrot, but you become a better writer, a more impressive thinker, an entrepreneur with more credibility and authority.

You inspire people, impress them. You and what you have to say are much more unique and memorable.

And, god, does it feel good!

People start telling you that they really appreciated the way you were thinking and it continued to bounce around their own brain or it connected dots in a surprising and delightful way.

I also think it really makes a difference these days in trying to improve your standing professionally.

In this world filled with 12 second videos and AI slop, it feels easier and easier to fall into the cracks unnoticed, screaming into the void.

Rather than get frustrated with the way the world has made it harder for writers and small business owners to share things and get attention (although I do, get frustrated with it, yes), or the way that people seem to be getting dumber as a society…

I try to focus on what I can control, and what will help take me to the next level as a person.

Like having really good ideas that stand out.

This means I am focused on pursuing things that have long-term benefits for me and my own personal enrichment as a human (having really excellent ideas and learning skills),

rather than merely banging my head against a wall trying to get one additional aiota of the world’s sadly short attention span.

And so, trying to cure brain rot by becoming a more brilliant person is a great way to go.

​Watch this video to learn how I cure brainrot to be smarter and more brilliant.​

I hope this video gives you some direction and some inspiration to make new strides in upleveling your own thinking, writing and creating. Let’s cure brainrot together!

Have a great day!

​And if you would like to support our fundraiser, we are still taking donations for Aminata, our second and final student in Sierra Leone who needs help with her college fees to remain in university. ​

Thank you! More on that below

Your donation will help a young woman to continue her university degree in Sierra Leone, a country where only 1% of women have any college education.

At the time of writing this email:

We have fully funded one student, Ismatu to go to college for her third year in a row!!!

YAY WE ARE CELEBRATING CHANGING HER LIFE!!

​We are now collecting funds for our second and final student named Aminata (pictured above):​

-Year 4 pharmacy degree student

-Orphaned, her parents died shortly after enrolling in college

-comes from a city with low female literacy in Sierra Leone

At the time of writing this email,

We’re now just $625 away from our goal to secure her college fees – that is 25 donations of $25.

Please help us to spread the word! As an expecting mom, I could really use all the help I can get!

Can I learn more about the nonprofit you work with?

Her Future Foundation is an organization dedicated to empowering girls and ending sexual violence in Sierra Leone.

Sierra Leone has high levels of violence against women, child marriage, female genital mutilation and other human rights abuses.

This nonprofit helps us to direct resources to where it will make the most impact to help girls and women in Sierra Leone. ​Click here to read more about this fundraiser and the nonprofit Her Future Foundation. ​

How to Donate:

Send your donation to one of the places below.

The suggested donation is $25 but ANY amount helps.

1. Preferred–Donate through GivenGain to send it directly to the Her Future Foundation organization. ​​Pay through GivenGain​​

2. If you feel more comfortable sending payment via Paypal, you can send the money to Sofia, who will transfer it to Her Future Foundation in Sierra Leone for our students’ college fees.

• Venmo @Sofia-Nitchie or

PayPal ​​​https://www.paypal.me/SofiaNitchie​​​

If you’d like to spread the word about this event or read more, spread this link: ​https://www.givengain.com/project/sofia-raising-funds-for-her-future-foundation-109422​

Thanks for reading

🦋 💜 🌿 How is your week going?

We had an incredible show of support for my fundraiser last week and we reached the $800 goal needed to send a young woman named Ismatu to college next year!

​We are even making progress on funding college for a second, and final student Aminata (details are here if you want to see).​

I just want to thank everyone again:

whether you sent positive vibes of support, shared it with others, or contributed financially, I so appreciate you! Thank you thank you thank you.

In this email I am going to share some words as another way to say thank you, especially if you were not able to attend our Tarot Party event on Tuesday (which was fabulous).

I just want to say as the fundraiser organizer, I really felt the pressure to get results this time.

Just this spring 2025 in particular for the last college fundraiser, it was really hard to get the word out.

I couldn’t bear to see our students drop out so I pulled from my own pocket heavily to cover the gap in funding. It was the right thing.

And for this fundraiser the timing was even trickier:

Being about to give birth and knowing the stakes of these fundraisers to keep two women in college….and also being about to give birth…and feeling it is “all on me” to get those fees funded or fundraised,

I did my best not to freak out but that’s a lot.

So when I say I’m really grateful to everyone’s support, I really really really really mean it, especially this time around!

What a sigh of relief I feel knowing we have made such progress helping these women go to college together as a community. Definitely a TEAM effort, not all on me. There are no words to describe!

And second, something I feel compelled to say for no particular reason:

Remember that apathy and fear and disappointment and rage at things you see in the world, wrongs that stand uncorrected

–it’s very normal to feel all that and then want to give up.

But please hang in there and stick with the things you know you are here to do because good things really are possible.

Change is possible. Helping people is possible. Bite off something small.

And these fundraisers really show how much good is in the world, too, in every single person’s desire to make life just a little bit better for women on the planet, even someone they don’t know personally.

My Thank You Gift to You

So here’s what I want to do today:

we had a Tarot Party yesterday to thank everyone who donated. I know not everyone was able to attend, and some people reading this haven’t donated…

I really want to share the love with you.

I’d like to share some key messages that came through during all the Tarot readings in the hopes that it will serve you. Take what resonates and leave the rest.

It’s on the house!

So here are the big patterns and things to take away:

-Changing chapters and facing changes in life or work.

There is an uncertainty about what is ahead, and emotions are coming up.

These can also be experienced as repeated thoughts or questions,

“Have you figured out what you are going to do or how to do it?

How are you going to finish?

Are you there yet?

What’s taking so long?”

-A feeling of pressure or time urgency getting in the way.

You may feel a burning need to know things and have answers to those questions.

Unfortunately, this need to know and pressure can actually cut you off from your intuition

and the part of you that is able to answer those questions, feel into them slowly and spit out the results.

So although this may seem like this nagging reminder is keeping you on track, it may actually be blocking your efforts to move forward more quickly.

In other words, the very thing that feels like a productive way to nudge yourself to stay on track and do the responsible thing, may actually be taking you backwards.

-Fear is making you impatient.

At the end of the day, so many things can be bundled up and simply described with the word, ‘fear.’

Whether it is fear of success, fear of failure, fear of not being good enough, fear of being too late, fear of missing out, at the end of the day it is all the same raw material.

Fear is underneath all of the things listed above, contributing to the sense of pressure, the need to know now, and general impatience.

That impatience gets put on yourself, and is especially felt by your more tender parts.

This is hardest on your most sensitive, intuitive, creative parts who are most capable of problem solving the scenarios you want to address.

This is why, ironically, the pressure and impatience to know or get things done is actually making it harder for you to know what to do and do things.

Remember that the presence of fear means nothing.

Experienced writers, creators, entrepreneurs all experience it. It is just part of being human and not evidence that you are doing anything wrong.

The impulse to feel fear is human and can teach you valuable things.

Just be careful in listening to the illogical thoughts that come from fear and how they can direct your behavior in unhelpful ways.

Impatience with yourself ultimately can be very unhelpful.

-A few thoughts on being patient with yourself:

Over the last few years, I’ve come to see that I can habitually be impatient with myself.

It’s not on purpose, but it’s a mode I can get into when I feel like I urgently need to do things or figure it out.

And I’ve been a recovering workaholic and speed demon so this has been an area I really have to watch out for.

But my eyes are open now: being impatient with myself isn’t the best motivational tool or way to get results.

In my view now, impatience is a very common form of self disrespect and I’ve started to let it go.

If an old man with a cane was crossing the street, I wouldn’t yell at him for not walking fast enough.

I would give him the respect of patience, and what would I really lose?

Probably about two seconds of my day waiting for him to finish crossing, that I would never miss.

Consider:

What are you sacrificing by being impatient?

Is it really giving you anything positive?

What if it is actually taking away from your quality of life and diminishing your creative problem-solving abilities?

-Spelunking into your emotional world.

Oooooh juicy!

This is one of my favorite aspects of the creative process.

It looks like being off track. If your boss was watching maybe they would think you were just screwing around…

but actually you are filling your tank, processing your emotions, healing your wounds, and taking your psyche to the next level to prepare to go higher than you have ever gone before.

And this is exactly what you need to be doing.

For me it looks like:

-Laundry.

-Looking at pictures.

-A drive to look at the fall leaves.

-Journaling about your childhood stuff.

-A ritual with a candle to burn stuff away.

-A recipe you have been meaning to make.

-Taking a long shower with some foamy product.

-A worksheet to review my past week, month or season.

-Working on a hobby that has nothing to do with your problems.

-Hauling your past season clothes from one place to another in your house.

You already know the stuff you want to do

and the thing is that it might unlock energy and space for you to actually think through the next step of your life.

Just let yourself do it and tell the voice demanding instant answers to shut up.

​(Watch this, if you are struggling to follow your wild ideas because they don’t seem productive. I made EFT tapping video so you will give yourself permission and take the edge off any resistance to it)​

As soon as you take your foot off the gas, you can glide easily down the hill, and accelerate without burning more fuel than necessary.

And it might even feel good. It might even feel like everything is okay and you are safe and you can let fear go, and everything will get easier, I promise. To just stand still a moment.

-It is okay to stand still.

It is wonderful how sometimes you can do it and the world doesn’t blow up around you,

things get quiet and the ideas can come rushing in. The reduction in noise eliminates confusion.

Observing before you act means you can be open to new ideas,

open to your true range of feelings or desires (valuable information),

discover what is lurking under the surface and

what the universe is calling you to do or be or know.

-Guidance:

Make space to listen to your intuition, and follow it.

Have patience with yourself.

Give yourself whatever you need to feel safe so you can release fear or anxiety. Do the things that help (the list above may give you some ideas).

Treat yourself like you would a child, this is a tender time and you need care through this transition because changes are hard.

That tiny voice of fear needs attention or it will act out and take over your whole life

(and not in a positive or productive way–a nagging way, a draining way that sucks).

Even if you wish that fearful part of you wasn’t there, it may actually be an important element to listen to in its own way.

It isn’t trying to hurt you, but trying to keep you safe. It’s just having the unintended consequence of doing the opposite and getting in the way.

Perhaps through inner work, curiosity and holding space for yourself, you will find a new muse inside that fear voice, a new best friend inside of yourself.

That inner conflict can point the way to an energy that you can reabsorb within yourself, collapsing barriers with a gentleness, love and patience with yourself.

Hold firmly to the bold idea that you are valuable now before you solve all the problems, or figure it all out or release any unhelpful emotions.

You have nothing to prove even if nothing changes. You are deserving of love, rest, pleasure, and support now and not in the future when it is all done.

That deep, radical respect of yourself will clear the way for the tumblers to click into place.

Thanks for reading.

Thanks again to everyone who has made this fundraiser a success, I SO appreciate you.

​And if you would like to support our fundraiser, we are still taking donations for Aminata, our second and final student in Sierra Leone who needs help with her college fees to remain in university. ​

Thank you! More on that below

Your donation will help a young woman to continue her university degree in Sierra Leone, a country where only 1% of women have any college education.

At the time of writing this email:

We have fully funded Ismatu to go to college for her third year in a row!!!

YAY WE ARE CELEBRATING CHANGING HER LIFE!!

​We are now collecting funds for our second and final student named Aminata (pictured above):​

-Year 4 pharmacy degree student

-Orphaned, her parents died shortly after enrolling in college

-comes from a city with low female literacy in Sierra Leone

At the time of writing this email,

We’re now just $700 away from our goal to secure her college fees – that is 28 donations of $25.

Please help us to spread the word! As an expecting mom, I could really use all the help I can get!

Can I learn more about the nonprofit you work with?

Her Future Foundation is an organization dedicated to empowering girls and ending sexual violence in Sierra Leone.

Sierra Leone has high levels of violence against women, child marriage, female genital mutilation and other human rights abuses.

This nonprofit helps us to direct resources to where it will make the most impact to help girls and women in Sierra Leone.

​Click here to read more about this fundraiser and the nonprofit Her Future Foundation. ​

How to Donate:

Send your donation to one of the places below.

The suggested donation is $25 but ANY amount helps.

1. Preferred–Donate through GivenGain to send it directly to the Her Future Foundation organization. ​​Pay through GivenGain​​

2. If you feel more comfortable sending payment via Paypal, you can send the money to Sofia, who will transfer it to Her Future Foundation in Sierra Leone for our students’ college fees.

• Venmo @Sofia-Nitchie or

PayPal ​​​https://www.paypal.me/SofiaNitchie​​​

If you’d like to spread the word about this event or read more, spread this link: ​https://www.givengain.com/project/sofia-raising-funds-for-her-future-foundation-109422​

Thanks for reading