It’s Too Much! So Aim Low

by SofiaWren on December 12, 2017

Did you have a chance to sit in silence since last time? I know it’s busy around the holidays. The whole point of sitting in silence was to understand what you want so you can set your goals for the New Year. Honestly, why wait? You can get started today.

What I’m going to talk about today will help you once you know what you want and are actually sitting down to set your goals or make progress. This is a way to stretch yourself without setting yourself up to be disappointed.

Just like our eyes may be bigger than our stomach so we put too much on our plate, we can do that with our goals or expectations.

We can take on too much, and set bigger goals than we really have the capacity to take on. That’s one of the biggest problems I see with clients when it comes to achieving their goals. I hate seeing people be hard on themselves when they don’t meet their goals.

The truth is that we have to play mental games with ourselves sometimes to set powerful and achievable goals.

This is something I learned through writing. Have you ever faced a blank page? Especially if it’s the start, say, of a 20 page paper.

Even a 3 paragraph long blog post can seem long when I have nothing to start with.

When I sit down expecting to make massive progress, sometimes it ends up hampering my creative ability. My clients have reported similar experiences in their own endeavors. So aim low.

What I’ve learned is that we need to be creative to problem solve, but we also need some sort of structure or guideline like a goal to make consistent and thus faster progress. My solution is to play around with the goal I set and try making it really small to get some momentum under me.

Maybe instead of trying to do a whole paper, I just try to write a sentence. Use this as an analogy for other things.

Some of you reading have real drive, real passion, and there is something you want to create and offer through your business. Maybe it’s a book, a blog, a website, a sale, a musical career, a painting, you name it. Your soul knows you need to do this. You have accepted the call, you want this with a burning desire but it isn’t getting off the ground quickly enough for you.

Try making it easier–set a stupid low goal. Or what I call “an easy win.”

Instead of your goal being the full impact on the world that you want to create, what if you got that smaller goal completed like the painting or the first blogpost? Choose one thing, and then one smaller piece of that.

What if your goal right now is just to figure out the smallest possible step that you can take to move forward in your project?

If there is something so stupid easy you know that you could do it in 5 minutes or less then go back to that when you get stuck. That will contribute positive energy and momentum to your project.

This is a trick I do all the time. And it works. Try it.

What’s your stupid easy goal? Let me know if you need help

Look for the final post in this series where I will show you how to expand those small goals into a plan for the New Year.


Sofia Wren

P.S. Aim low.

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Achieve More With Silence

by SofiaWren on December 11, 2017

It’s me again sprinkling some love to help you prepare you for the New Year. Last time we talked goals and knowing what you want. Since so many people have trouble knowing what they want and what to do next, I have a shortcut for you. It works for everything.

It’s called silence.

It’s called inner or outer listening.

The Silence Test. It’s the ultimate way to know if you’re going in the “right” direction.

So when you do this practice, what are you listening to?


Absolutely nothing.

Instead of focusing on sounds of a door closing down the street, or a child playing, or music in the background, I want you to find the space, the absence, the gap in between noises.

If you like you can make a silent request to Spirit, God, Goddess, your Higher Self to be with you and guide you in this quiet time.

Once you’ve sat in the silence for a little bit, thirty seconds at least, now ask yourself a question.

You could use this for any question, but right now, I invite you to ask yourself:

What do I really want?

You may have a lot of thoughts running through your mind, but just try to listen to the silence. Keep going back to the silence. That is where you are going to find your answer.

When you’ve really allowed yourself to be in the silence, then something will occur to you. Trust that you will know it when you hear it. It will feel or resonate differently than the thoughts trying to distract you. When it comes to you, you will know it. Grab it. That is your answer.

This is how you know if you are going the right direction: silence. This is how you will know what you really want most of all so that you can make faster progress and get that.

Silence always has answers for you, if you take the time to listen.

This is your intuition. God, Goddess, or that wise presence by another name, speaking and giving you the answer.

So now I invite you to spend five minutes (or less, or more if you wish) and be in the silence today. Just take your questions or challenges or prayers or concerns about what you really want to happen in the New Year and just spend a moment inviting an answer to come into the silence with you.

I use this technique with my clients, having learned the power of silence from my Master’s studies in Spiritual and Pastoral Care from Loyola which is a Jesuit institution. I’ve been translating their methods of Spiritual Direction to a “Spiritual but Not Religious” way of being, like that of most of my clients.

Sometimes my clients sit in the silence and suddenly know exactly what to do to break through their resistance around that thing they know they have a clear download to do. Sometimes they know what to do in their business. Sometimes the steps to take their creative projects like song writing or even just taking care of life problems–suddenly the way seems clear and calmer.

Because they stepped out of their brain and into the silence.

So take this invitation to hit a pause button and whatever it is you are grappling with, let’s take five minutes or so and sit in it together. Starting with that question, “What do you really want?”


How was that for you? Feel free to comment


Sofia Wren

PS Try it!

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